Cash bar for hard liquor

posted 8 months ago in Reception
Post # 2
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m team no cash bar, ever. Stick to what you can afford to provide. Wine, beer and sangria will be plenty for your guests. 

Post # 3
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I second cblank181 . Spirits aren’t always expected – and I highly doubt anyone would judge if you don’t include them in the bar tab.

Don’t mention them at all: simply phrase it as “Beer, wine and sangria provided”. If people are that desperate for hard liquor they can put 2 and 2 together

Post # 4
5595 posts
Bee Keeper

None of this is appropriate for an invite anyways. Possibly website, but I wouldn’t put any of this on your actual invite.

Post # 5
1689 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

jessica14 :  This is pretty standard where I’m from, though I know it’s frowned upon by a lot of bees.  I wouldn’t put anythng on your invite, if I’m invited to the wedding, I assume drinks are hosted.  I would perhaps just put a sign on the bar, or a note on your wedding website.  We didn’t do either – guests asked the bar what was available on the tab and if they wanted something different, they purchased it.  That’s how things work around here though if you aren’t super rich. 

Post # 6
1985 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Most of the weddings I’ve been to had cash bars for liquor. Do you have a wedding website? You could put the information on there. 

Post # 7
703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I think this is reasonable. I wouldn’t list it on the invite. I know a lot of people are against cash bars but I say do what you can afford. I think it’s fairly common now days. 

Post # 8
2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I wouldn’t list it either. I did have a thought though… wine and sangria are very similar. If you’re going to have a third option other than wine and beer, perhaps consider something different than those two drinks.

Post # 9
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Where I’m from, cash bars are the norm. We had wine available on the tables (banquet-style informal dining type tables, winter wedding) and the cash bar was in another room. I don’t think we mentioned it at all? If we did I think we just said “Wine provided, cash bar on site” or something to that effect. 

Post # 10
13386 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There’s no polite way to point out what you aren’t providing your guests on an invitation.  Just don’t have spirits if you can’t afford them.  

Cash bars are incredibly uncommon in my circle, so if there was one, people would be really turned off.  Only you know your guests though. 

Post # 11
10989 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

There is no polite way. Host what you can afford. That includes tips. Your guests should not have to take out their wallets, and should be appreciative of whatever you provide. 

Post # 12
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I think your suggestion sounds fine, but then I’m in the U.K. and cash bars are the norm. I’ve only ever been to one wedding which had an open bar, I’ve always expected to buy my own drinks.

If I were a guest, I’d appreciate the heads up that I’ll need some cash.

 I can see from the previous posts that I may be in the minority here though…

Post # 13
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

kittycatcat :  cash bars are the norm where I live too so it is always strange to me to see these posts where so much disdain is thrown for those who will have them.

Post # 14
9021 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

it’s ok to just serve beer, wine, and sangria.

Post # 15
8932 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t put anything on your invite. You’re providing drinks.

Cash bars are totally normal here so people would be pumped to get free alcohol of any kind.

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