(Closed) Cash Bar: "Not Having Cash" Excuse

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 136
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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boomer715:  Cash bars do not mean you are a ‘shitty host’. That is utterly ridiculous.<br /><br />It’s clearly a cultural thing. Here in Britain, cash bars are the norm. Tipping also isn’t as big a thing over here.<br /><br />I always have some cash on me; Fiance would happily go cashless. I was reluctant to even have a contactless debit card!

Post # 137
1008 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I always carry cash to a wedding, same if I’m going to a farmers market or baseball game. Even if you “literally never have cash” on a regular basis, I don’t get why you wouldn’t prepare for the event. It’s not unheard of for a wedding to have a cash bar so I’m not sure why people act like it’s such a curveball.

Post # 138
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think it depends on your social circle if it’s rude 

or noT. in my circle I’ve only been to one cash bar wedding but they provided beer and wine, so It wasn’t too much of a shocker and the place accepted debit cards at the bar for other drinks. I would be upset if I was invited to a cash bar only wedding and not notified before hand, just because in MY social circle it is not expected. Usually weddings around here all come with some sort of open bar in their packages.

Post # 139
1429 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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Apple_Blossom:  Its rare that I carry cash… And unless I am home, I don’t have it accessible Either.(DH usually has cash). 

i believe if your going to a wedding you should always take a few bucks with you: for instance of cash bars, money dance, whatever it may be.


Post # 139
1790 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes I carry cash. All the time. My debit card has been compromised in breaches twice this year ALONE. So now, I’m carrying more than I used to. Regardless of that, I always carried cash anyway.

I’m so sick of the cash bar debate. I dont give a shit if a wedding has a cash bar. I’ll buy my own drinks, so what. Geez.  I can afford it. Plus I don’t NEED or require to drink at a wedding or ANY event to be entertained or enjoy myself, so guess what, dry weddings r fine with me too. My wedding was dry because we had a recovering alcoholic in attendance so screw anyone who calls us rude.

Post # 141
6532 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t carry cash and neither does my Fi. So we would be unhappy to have the surprise of a cash bar waiting for us.

we put everything we buy (and I do mean everything) on card so we get the airline miles and just are not in the habit of carrying cash.

OP I’m so sorry if you think that is a “straw man” argument but the simple fact remains that many people, for whatever reason, do not carry cash. As a hostess, you have to anticipate your guests’ needs and if they need a drink, the. You either have to give them one (host an open bar) or at a minimum make it easy for them to buy their own (convenient bar location, a variety of payment methods). 

I think the hostess needs to put her guests first. Cash bar is acceptable but not preferred. But if you do cash bar and spend a pile of money on chivari chairs, getaway cars and up-lighting, I’me going to side-eye the shit out of you, because you made your chairs or limo be more important than treating your guests well.

Post # 142
527 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I rarely have cash on me. The only time I carry cash is if I have taken money out for something specific (i.e. a night out, flea market, craft show, etc.) or if I have recently been given cash as a gift. If I was going to a wedding I would probably take out cash just in case. 

I don’t think it’s rude because people may not have cash I think it’s rude because as a host you are expected to pay for the needs of your guests. Just my opinion though. 

Post # 143
755 posts
Busy bee

I don’t carry any cash normally except some pocket change. That being said cash bars are very normal where I live and people bring cash to weddings. Invites even say cash bar. 

Ive onlyever been to one wedding that was open bar.

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Post # 144
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I wonder if you could just let guest know in advance that there will be a cash bar so they will know to bring cash? I think if you have managed people’s expecations they should have cash on them and the fact that there is a cash bar should not come as a supprise.. I think people understand that weddings are expensive and people have different financial positions.. Perhaps let them know in advance and then ask for no gifts?

Post # 145
17 posts

I never carry cash.  However, if I knew a wedding was going to have a cash bar, I would be sure to have cash.  With that being said, I’ve never been to a wedding with a cash bar.  

Post # 146
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: Tarp Chapel

I NEVER EVER have cash on me. Ever since I have been 18, all of my bills have been online or auto-pay from my bank account. Paychecks from both jobs are direct deposit. All I have is a debit card, or a credit card. However, I don’t drink that much anyway so I wouldn’t spend cash on drinks even if I did have it. lol

Post # 147
247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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Apple_Blossom:  I NEVER have cash. I just dont.


BUT I think cash bars are ONLY rude if it was not mentioned in the invite. If it stands in the invite cash bar available, then what’s the problem?

Post # 148
532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I hardly ever carry cash because in my head I always think if I lose my wallet I can cancel the cards but the cash is gone forever. That being said if I knew a wedding was having a cash bar ahead of time I would make sure I was prepared. 

Post # 149
1580 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I almost always have €10 or €20 in my wallet, I feel uncomfortable if I don’t have any cash on me (but I also feel equally uncomfortable if I carry more than €50). I always bring some money to weddings too. In my country, cash bars are the norm anyway – the couple provides wine and 1 or 2 kinds of non-alcoholic drinks for children and adults who don’t drink but the guests who want to drink something else pay for themselves. I’ve honestly never heard of anyone here doing things differently, it would be much too expensive!

Post # 150
4097 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

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1. I don’t carry emergency cash on me although I probably should.

2. The whole point of being a guest is that you are being hosted by someone else. Whether or not they have cash on them is not the host’s business. 

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