(Closed) Cash Bar: "Not Having Cash" Excuse

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

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TwinkleBoss:  Those who believe cash bars are rude believe that the rudeness is in expecting guests to host themselves and/or in creating tiering among guests where some guests have access to more “hospitality” than others.  It is not rude to host a dry event, and it is rude to act in such a way as to say that the hospitality you are receiving isn’t good enough.  All the people who complain about the rudeness of a cash bar while bringing flasks or trying to sneak drinks from a different bar in the hotel are being just as rude as the people they decry.

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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Apple_Blossom:  truthfully, for years I never carried cash. I had no need for it. Recently I’ve tried to keep a minimal amount of cash $20-$40 on me-only because for work I sometimes have to park in garages that are cash only. 

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I got in the habit of not carrying any cash on me when I lived in NYC.  Too many times it would end up missing (spent?) without my knowing where it went and it was always easier to say “Sorry, I don’t carry cash but wish you the best of luck” instead of turning up my music and pretending to ignore people asking for it.

Even after leaving I will almost never carry cash unless I know I will need it – especially not in a small clutch that I would bring when dressed up.  My wallet is too large to fit in them and I would be littering dollar bills all over the place.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

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mrs.joiner:  This!

SO and I went to a wedding this past weekend and knowing it was a small town thing, I thought it might be possible there would be a cash bar. Sure enough, it was a Toonie Bar. For me, I usually end up tipping $10-$15 a night at a wedding depending on how much I’m drinking so what’s $2 a drink considering 5 would have me dancing on the tables.

They did hoewever provide non alcoholic beverages and wine with dinner. This is just the norm in small towns out side of my city…

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My husband and I almost never have cash on us, and same with our friends circle as well. If I know ahead of time that a wedding will have a cash bar, then I’ll stop by the ATM and take out $20/40. Otherwise I’m fine with my one hosted glass of wine or whatever.

Post # 22
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

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Apple_Blossom:  

1) Do you typically carry emergency cash or have it easily acccessible (ie in your car, in your desk at work, etc.)? No. I never carry cash.

2) Is it a valid reason to say that cash bars are rude because attendees do not have cash on them? No. I may not carry cash, but if I am going somewhere where cash is the only acceptable form of payment then I bring it with no complaints. People have the weddings they want, and I think cash bars are fine.

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

I never carry cash unless I know I’m going somewhere where I will need it like and event where I will need to pay for parking in cash or something like that. If I was going to a wedding, I would hope that I would know in advance that there would be a cash-only bar so that I could prepare. If no notice of that is given, the I do think it’s a bit unfair to assume that people will have cash on them.

Post # 24
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Busy bee

I never have any cash on me and a wedding would not be an exception. If I’m going to a wedding, I don’t expect to pay for the “hosted” beverages. 

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper

I typically carry a little cash on me at all times. A little meaning, less than $40 or so.

 

Also, IDAF really if someone has a cash only, fully stocked bar, dry reception or freaking Sunny Delight station at their wedding. Their wedding, their choice. It’s a party. It lasts all of 3 hours– not enough time for it to blip on my radar of being pearl clutching rude.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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Apple_Blossom:  i never carry emergency cash, but my husband always does and i don’t find a cash bar to be rude in any situation at all.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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Apple_Blossom:  I never carry cash unless I know I’m going to need it like I’m going to pumpkin patch and they don’t take cards.

Post # 30
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Blushing bee

I have friends who never carry cash, and I always, always end up covering for them when we encounter an expense where cards aren’t accepted, or a minimum purchase is required for card use. Funny how that works.

Post # 31
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I rarely keep much cash on me, but I would never assume that someone is going to have a full bar free of charge either. They’re quite common here.

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