(Closed) Cash Bar: "Not Having Cash" Excuse

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
141 posts
Blushing bee

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Apple_Blossom:  Ha ha, yeah. My favorite dive is cash-only, and my BFF somehow refuses to absorb this information. I don’t invite her there anymore, because there’s always that, ‘What do you MEAN you can’t take my card?” moment (followed by me paying).

Keep a $20 on you (not you, Apple_Blossom, other people). I promise it won’t kill you. And you won’t have to be the jerk aguing that you should be allowed to use a credit card to buy a $1 coffee at the corner store. Pro tip: businesses pay fees to allow you the privilege of putting that $1 on your card. Not a big problem at national chains, a pretty big problem for a local store. Cash is never, ever going to be turned away. It’s magic!

Post # 48
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I typically have around $50 in my wallett on any given day. However when I’m packing up a clutch or wristlet for a wedding I’ll probably only put a few dollar bills to tip the bartender or valet and my emergency $20 in it and I don’t want to spend that on drinks. Also, in the greater NYC area, even if I was ok with spending half of that – that gets me one drink.

But to better answer your question, I don’t think this is really a valid reason to not have a cash bar. The reason I DONT bring cash with me to weddings isn’t because I don’t have cash. It’s because I expect I shouldn’t have to pay for anything beyond the very nice check that I’m going to drop in your card box. It’s a cultural thing. 

Post # 49
6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

If a cash bar only took physical cash I would be screwed! I don’t ever carry cash, especially not to a formal event like a wedding. DH is the same way. Taking out cash normally means an ATM (double) fee since our bank isn’t too convenient. We tend to only shop at places that take credit cards. In general though I don’t really think cash bars are rude because I totally “get it” that weddings are expensive and alcohol is usually the most expensive part. I think it’s rude to not provide ANY way to get alcohol (unless it is a very religious family, etc.) since even if I have to pay for it, I at least want to be able to have a cocktail during a formal affair. 

Post # 50
42 posts
  • Wedding: January 2015

I never have cash in my wallet (other than change) unless I specifically get it for something (paying someone back, etc.). When I go to events, I only bring ID, credit card and debit card in a clutch, not even my full wallet. But I know lots of people will say there is a cash bar on the invite, at least in rural areas, because there might not even be an ATM at all close, so people need to get cash before they go to the wedding. I do think guests should know if there is a cash bar before hand.

Post # 51
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I never carry cash with me – I don’t even keep coins in my car (EZ Pass).  HOWEVER, Fiance always has some amount of cash on him so if we were attending a wedding together, we’d be fine.  When we go out, I call Fiance my pack mule lol because I have him carry all my necessities in his wallet (ID, debit card, insurance card). 

I honestly think the only thing rude about having a cash bar is not informing your guests ahead of time, so the legions of “no cash” carriers at least have the chance to plan accordingly.

Post # 53
1640 posts
Bumble bee

1. We almost NEVER carry cash! 

2. I think guests should be notified in advance if they are expected to pay at a cash bar (assuming the bar doesn’t take cards)

Post # 54
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

1) No, I don’t normally carry cash, nor do I have emergency cash stashed away

2) I don’t think it’s rude to have a cash bar, even though some people may not have cash on them. But to be honest, I normally don’t carry cash on me, so it’s more of a shock when I see a cash bar, and then the realization of, “oh wow, no drinks for me” kicks in.

– Am I saddened that it’s not an open bar? Yes. 

– Do I get upset or think that my hosts are being rude in any way? No. I’m at the wedding to see the bride & groom get married, end of story.


Post # 55
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m with the vast majority:  I very rarely carry cash.  When I *do* have cash, it’s because I went to the bank/ATM for the express purpose of getting cash because I *knew* I was going somewhere that I would need it (for me, the most common reason is paying for parking in downtown Seattle.) 

I would probably be pretty frustrated if I arrived at a wedding and discovered there was a cash bar I wasn’t aware of.  Expecting guests to have cash on them “for emergencies” is one assumption, and you’re going even further to assume that guests will want to spend their emergency cash on drinks at your wedding – that’s a lot of assumption to put on your guests, IMO.  Especially if the only option was an on-site ATM that charged me an outrageous fee.  I think, if you’re going to have a cash bar, the *very least* you can do is let your guests know so they are prepared for it. 

So, long answer short, my answer is YES, I think that “guests don’t carry cash” *is* a valid reason (among several valid reasons) why a cash bar isn’t a good idea. 

Post # 56
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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Mrs.Sawyertobe:  i wish that was the case with our customers! i will say yes you have to go get cash or we would be happy to take a check too! they look at me in the most awful way and say “like i would have checks if i dont have cash on me” its horrible. i feel bad for some people who are so arrogant

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Apple_Blossom:  yes it is awful they say what do you mean its broke? fix it then! ok like i have that ability jackass! but you just have to smile and be polite! 🙂

Post # 57
2701 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

<div>I rarely have cash on me.  I only make a point if I’m going somewhere where I know I’ll need it – like a craft show or farmers market.  H does usually carry some cash on him though.</div>
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<div>I don’t think it’s an excuse to say cash bars are rude, but it’s definitely an inconvenience to consider.  I think cash bars are rude because if you require your guests to open their wallet at your hosted event, then you are not properly hosting (at least in the US, I cannot speak for other countries when it comes to properly hosting guests).  I will also say that I don’t think it’s *that* rude if you offer at beer/wine and have a cash liquor bar because then you are at least providing some alcohol.</div>

Post # 58
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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Apple_Blossom:  I never ever have any cash on me. I am completely dependent on my cards so if there isn’t an ATM around, I’m totally screwed. I can’t remember the last time I ever handled anything with cash. I’m that person that pays for my $1.00 coffee with a card. 

Post # 59
9575 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

1) I don’t really carry a lot of cash, maybe a few bucks but rely on my debit card mostly

2) I don’t think cash bars are rude bc guests don’t have cash, I just think it’s rude to charge for anything at a hosted event. That’s what party/concert promoters do.

Post # 60
454 posts
Helper bee

I like to have at least $10 on me just in case.  I don’t think cash bars are rude because of that reason; I don’t think they’re rude at all.  You shouldn’t be expected to pay for dinner and music and other entertainment AND alcohol; that’s ridiculously expensive!

Post # 61
4888 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it’s regional, as cash bars are the norm in my circle of friends. No one minds them, and actually expects them. An open bar is a very rare, or may only be for the wedding party. Drink tickets are also usually handed out, so that alleviates some cost.

We’re doing a cash bar with some drink tickets.


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