(Closed) Cash Bar: "Not Having Cash" Excuse

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 62
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

I never carry cash. HOWEVER, if I’m going to a wedding or something I make sure to bring cash just in case I need it. I never assume it is open bar. Also, do you people not tip the bartender when it’s open bar?

Post # 63
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Sugar bee

I never carry cash. Haven’t in years since the advent of the debit card.

Post # 64
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Blushing bee

I absolutely never have cash. But if I’m going to a wedding, I make sure I have cash on me. I absolutely don’t agree that cash bars are rude. For all those who compare it to having people over to your house and expecting them to pay…when you visit a friend do you get grumpy if there’s no alcohol served? It’s not like people are charging them for their plates or anything. Just think of it as a dry wedding, with the option of making it not dry for yourself if you wish.

Post # 65
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

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MsGinkgo:  If a drink is $6, I’m not tipping an additional $4.

Post # 66
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Busy bee

I usually don’t carry cash; Fiance does because he travels a lot and always has some cash on hand.  I just looked in my wallet and I have exactly $1.62 in there, and I don’t even know where the dollar came from.

Cash bars are not common where I live.  I would not (and am not) choose to have one but if I know ahead of time, I’m not going to rant and rave about it, but I will honestly give the couple less of a gift.  The worst is not knowing there is going to be one.  That happened to us once last year and all FI’s friends were hitting him for money because he was the only one that had cash.  (His friends did pay him back that same night).  I’m not a big drinker so I don’t find it rude if soda, beer and wine is free and you charge for mixed drinks.

Post # 67
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

A: No. I do not carry cash with me. I do usually have some change to toss around (Parking meters, to throw at a child I don’t like, whatever.) But I can’t tell you the last time I carried around physical dollar bills.<br /><br />B: I don’t think cash bars are “rude”, but I don’t agree that it’s polite to require your guests to come to your wedding and pay for their own drinks. You wouldn’t invite a house guest over and ask them to pay for their drinks, would you? A wedding is just a bigger gathering of houseguests. I would never, ever ask my guests to open their wallets for me.<br /><br />ETA: My husband carries cash. However, it’s Pesos and euros. He likes to collect foreign money, so his cash wouldn’t help us at all.

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Post # 68
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

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IzzyBear:  The host tips.  I don’t think I’ve been to an event with an open bar (wedding or otherwise) where the bartender has a tip jar.

Post # 69
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I almost never have cash, unless I know that I will be going somewhere that I must have cash (my child’s high school football game, etc) and then I will stop and take a small amount of cash at an ATM at my bank. Otherwise I only carry my card. 

I think it is 100% valid to expect that your guests won’t be carrying cash to a hosted event. 

Post # 70
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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AB Bride:  fair enough, then the toonies go back in my purse or DH’s pocket.

 

Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

1. I almost never have cash on me.

2. I do not think that’s a reason why it is rude, but I think it’s a reason it’s logistically inconvenient for your guests and if you’re planning to do it and your social circle usually has open bars then you should warn people ahead of time so they come prepared. I’ve never been to a wedding with a cash bar, so I wouldn’t expect it unless someone told me.

Whether or not a cash bar is rude is an entirely separately issue for people that has to do with hosts vs guests paying for what’s served at a party. I really haven’t given much thought to whether I personally think it’s rude or not because it has never come up in my life, but I’m not a big drinker, so as long as pop was free I probably wouldn’t care. I think it’s nice to at least offer beer and wine to your guests, but like PPs have said, it seems very regional what’s expected.

Post # 72
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

AB Bride:  I’ve never been to one where there wasn’t a tip jar. Maybe it’s a difference in location…

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I never have cash on Me. I think it’s rude not to warn your guests especially if there is no Atm close by. 

Post # 73
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Never have cash on me and always remember too late to get any for weddings. 

Post # 74
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Buzzing bee

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Apple_Blossom: 

1) On a day to day basis I typically forget to replenish my emergency cash and therefore months will go by with me not carrying emergency cash or having it easily accessible. However if I’m going to a formal event such as a wedding, I will always remember to put ~$50-100 of emergency cash in my purse. Reason being just in case I need it.

2) On the contrary, I think it’s lazy not to put some cash in your purse just in case. I also don’t think cash bars are rude in general, but I do think that the fact that there will be a cash bar should be spelled out on the wedding website for the people who wouldn’t carry cash otherwise.

Post # 75
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

 

Apple_Blossom:  I carry maybe a little cash on me. But I mostly carry just my emergency credit card and my atm card on a regular basis. I don’t think it’s rude to have a cash bar because guests won’t have cash. I think it’s rude because they are your guests and just like you wouldn’t expect or ask them to pay for their meal, you shouldn’t have them pay for drinks at YOUR event either. it’s just in poor taste.

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