(Closed) Cash Bar: "Not Having Cash" Excuse

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 121
Hostess
8573 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I always have cash on me, it may not be a lot but still enough to buy a few drinks as need. I always carry cash as I have had a few places who were having credit card troubles and couldn’t accept mine at the time.

Also, we live in an area where vending machines still take cash [no credit].

Post # 122
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7308 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

1) Do you typically carry emergency cash or have it easily acccessible (ie in your car, in your desk at work, etc.)? Nope. I actually have cash on me maybe one day a month. It is extremely rare for me to carry cash.

2) Is it a valid reason to say that cash bars are rude because attendees do not have cash on them? Yes, I think it is a valid point.

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Post # 123
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6107 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

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oneofthesethings:  the bartenders put the tip jars out, not the hosts. That’s how it’s done in my area anyways.

Post # 124
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558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood

I ALWAYS have cash on me.  Just in case.  I feel like if people have that particular objection to cash bars, warning your guests that that’s the type of bar you’re having could prevent people from using that argument.  I don’t care about cash bars one way or the other, personally.

Post # 125
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999 posts
Busy bee

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Apple_Blossom:  I don’t really care whether or not someone choses to have a cash bar, but I very very rarely have cash on me.  I’d say DH has cash on him a little more often than I do, but still it’s pretty rare.  

Post # 126
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595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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Apple_Blossom:  My Fiance has that bank book still. Its for his savings account. He insists that it is stamped every time he does a transaction.

 

Post # 127
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2389 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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IzzyBear:  It’s the host’s choice. My DOC specifically asked me if I wanted to allow tip jars. I said no because it makes me, as the host, look bad to my guests. 

Post # 128
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1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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Apple_Blossom:  1. I usually never have cash because I’m generally at $0. 2. I don’t think it’s rude as long as I know ahead of time…then I will try to pull cash out of the bank or ask the Fiance 🙂 I’m pretty easy going and I get weddings are $$.

Post # 129
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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Apple_Blossom:  I rarely carry cash.  Where I live debit is available everywhere.  I rarely use a credit card, though I usually have one of each in my wallet for emergencies.  I have no problems debiting my 1.78 morning coffee.  I don’t pay any bank fees for debit.  

I am a spender.  If I have cash I’ll piddle it away on stuff I don’t need (or go on a middle of the night vending machine raid at work.)  With debit, I spend only what’s required, not a penny more.  

Honestly, it’s rarely an issue.  If I’m going some place that I know is cash only, I’ll take some out at a nearby ATM (there not usually terribly far away).  But even that is few and far between.  I use an app for taxis that’s hooked to my credit card – no cash required (even though they all take debit/credit anyways.)  The only place I can think of that is absolutely cash only is the little ice cream parlour in the small town beside our new house.  

Also, I’ve been to a lot of weddings and none have been cash bars.  I often don’t even take a purse to a wedding if I’m staying in the same hotel (I just leave my key behind the front desk.)  And if I’m leaving the venue I often take a small clutch with my phone, cards, ID in it.  

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 2 months ago by  sostobe.
Post # 130
Member
1262 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

The only cash I carry is an emergency $50 tucked in my wallet. However, I don’t bring said wallet to weddings bc it doesn’t fit in my formal purses. So no, I never have cash at weddings. So yes, I think it’s a valid reason to say it is rude if not made known prior to the wedding.  

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Post # 131
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507 posts
Busy bee

I never carry cash anymore.  I rely on my debit or credit card most of the time.  I think if you’re having a cash bar, you need to let people know that somehow.  If there isn’t an ATM onsite, I would be going drinkless because I wouldn’t have to the cash to buy even one drink.

Post # 132
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2537 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I rarely carry money on me because most places you can put things onto card and, if you’re splitting a bill with others, then all you do is say how much you want to pay. However, if I know I’m going somewhere I will need cash then I will have it on me. This includes wedding receptions and those parties where you can buy things. Not because I can’t use my card but at least if I only have a set amount of money on me I know I won’t be spending lots.

Post # 133
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579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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Apple_Blossom:  I live in a country where theft and muggings happen quite often so nope i do not carry cash as a rule. Sure there are times I have cash left over when I have been to a craft market but that is very seldom. I know less than 5 people who routinely have cash on them.

As to whether cash bars are rude, to me it depends. I expect to be let know so I bring cash and quite frankly I prefer when there is something free (like juice) on the table and/or for example 2 drinks tickets and the rest is on you. I feel like if you are hosting there should be something available to drink that your guests don’t have to pay for. 

Post # 134
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I think saying people don’t carry cash is valid and true, but I don’t think cash bars are rude on that basis. I think cash bars are fine, just let people know ahead of time, and check if your venue has an ATM on premises or if the bar accepts cards. I rarely carry cash, and when I do it is usually spent quickly, but I would carry some to a wedding and wouldn’t find a cash bar rude. As long as some beverages are provided (water, juice, soft drink, whatever) it’s fine, they are fulfilling their host duties. So I strongly disagree with those who say ‘guests having to buy their own alcohol is so rude!! Hosts should provide free alcoholic beverages as well as non-alcoholic, otherwise they are poor hosts!’ Wrong, they still give you food and drink (and enough of it hopefully), just not alcohol.

So to answer your question, yes the ‘guests might not carry cash’ is a valid argument, but if you provide warning or make sure there is an ATM on site or making sure cards are allowable then cash bars are far from rude.

ETA: And I agree with PPs that guests shouldn’t be forced to spend emergency cash, that is for emergencies. But if they don’t want to pay for the alcohol they don’t have to have any lol.

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Post # 135
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9831 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

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Jacqui90:  We will probably have partially hosted (beer and wine), the wedding packages for the reception venue we would like only lists beer and wine as part of their packages, so not sure about other alcohol, depending on the budget we may do full hosted. However I would happily consider a cash bar as an option, they are well received here.

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