Post # 1
Inspired by some posts about open bar vs. cash bar, some brides simply cannot afford to have an open bar and I think everyone realizes that.
Some say if you can’t afford to have an open bar, have a dry wedding. (Absolutely NO cash bar.)
Others say a cash bar is fine, but try to provide “a little something” if you can (for example, a couple of bottles of wine at the table during dinner). If you can’t provide a little something, cash bar is still better than nothing.
So what would you prefer as a guest, if having an open bar was just not an option? Cash bar (let’s say, without the “something extra”) or dry wedding?
I’ll start– I’d prefer cash bar over nothing. And I’m not a big drinker. I just like to have options.
(This is not about my wedding as my alcohol decisions are already made. I’m just curious.)
Edited to add, from a guest perspective.
Post # 3
I’d have to go with dry reception, but that’s because we’re doing one ourselves for a variety of reasons. But if we HAD to do a bar, I’d prefer cash over open, if that makes sense. Might control the drinking a bit…or maybe not. =P It’s hard to tell!
Post # 4
I would much prefer the option of buying myself a drink!!
Post # 5
ahyaaayahhh! you opened the doors
This is just my opinion. I would prefer dry wedding because I feel as the host I have a responsibility and I would feel bad if my guests had to pay for anything since they have already spent money to travel to the event. Over 1/2 of my wedding party is out of town.
BUT there are many other options to open bar but that is a different forum 🙂
Post # 6
I was already definitely having a host bar for the beer and wine, and when I asked my/FI’s friends about if they would drink hard liquor, they said they would rather have a cash bar than no hard alcohol at all.
We ended up going with the host bar for everything (it was super cheap at my venue), but that was their views!
Post # 7
Cash Bar, I would hate to be somewhere with out the option to buy something.
Post # 8
I don’t care either way, as I don’t drink. But knowing all of my friends and family, they would rather have cash bar.
Post # 9
Can I pick neither? I really hate dry weddings and I tend to feel kind of offended by cash bars. Somewhere in between would be good. Even if it is just one drink per person if they want it, that would be better IMO.
Post # 10
Cash bar. I would like the option to buy myself a drink if I wanted to.
Post # 11
As a guest, I’d prefer to have an option although some view it as “tacky”.
However I have never been to a wedding with a cash bar but as long as I know ahead of time so I can bring some cash with me I would be okay with it.
Post # 12
At my brother’s wedding, they did an open bar for an hour and then after that is was cash. Everyone seemed ok with it. I was too young to drink.
Post # 13
@Havana29: Teehee, I knew I was opening the flood gates! That’s why I added that this is not about my wedding, so hopefully no one attacks me about it. I’m just totally curious because I get the issue with cash bars, but from a guest’s perspective, it may be different? I don’t know… We will see what happens! 🙂
Post # 14
Hahah this is going to be a fun one!! Honestly, if you can’t afford it at least give me the option of a cash bar and I can make my own decision whether to spend my money. It’s better than having nothing, imo.
Post # 15
I would prefer a cash bar. That being said, cash bars are quite popular over here and I would never go to a wedding without my credit cards just in case.
Post # 16
I’d much rather have the option of buying something than not having the option at all. In my opinion I think it’s ruder to deny your guests the option then have them pay for alcohol if they want it.
We’re providing a champagne reception and toast, as well as wine throughout dinner (along with a “soft bar”), the rest is cash bar. I think it’s a fair compromise.