(Closed) Cash Bar vs. Dry Wedding

posted 11 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Cash bar or dry wedding?

    Cash bar (Let's say, without the "something extra".)

    Dry wedding (Absolutely NO cash bar.)

  • Post # 17
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Cash bar over nothing, hands down.

    Post # 18
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    As a guest I DEFINITELY prefer a cash bar over nothing… but it is expected that weddings within my group of friends will involve a few drinks (no matter who is paying)!  If I was attending the wedding of someone who is knowingly anti-alcohol, I would obviously be okay with a dry wedding. 

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    If those are the only two options, as a guest I would choose a cash bar because I’d like to have the option. As the person throwing the wedding…..I think I’d want to choose a dry wedding, but then I’d know the guests would prefer the cash bar. So I guess I’d go cash bar as a host too.

    Post # 20
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    As a guest, I’d want the option available. Most weddings I’ve been to have been cash bars, so it’s sort of expected in my circle of friends, and/or my region.

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Cash bar, most definately. I don’t mind paying for a drink if I want one.

    Post # 22
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Oh, I am such a hypocrite! 

    As a guest, I would be a bit miffed by a cash bar (though I would NEVER EVER say anything to anyone about it).  I do fall in the camp that feels it is somehow wrong to ever charge a guest for hospitality.  If it were my wedding, I’d cut the guest list, the flowers, ANYTHING, before having a cash bar. 

    HOWEVER, as a guest, if the choice was cash bar or dry wedding…I’d be happier with a cash bar.  I’m not even a big drinker.  I don’t drink on a regular basis.  I only drink a few times a year, ususally at large family/friend gatherings.  So if I’m at a wedding reception, that is one of the few times I will want a few drinks.  And I honestly wouldn’t mind paying for them if that was the only option.

    So my answer TOTALLY makes no sense.  Can you say conflicted?

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Cash bar – I want the option of having a drink or four 😉

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Cash bar without a doubt!

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    W’ere just doing beer champagne and wine. Oh well. 

    Post # 26
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    As as guest, I would must certainly like a cash bar over nothing at all! I think this thread will make a lot of bee’s feel better if they too are struggling with the decision between cash bar or no bar.

    Post # 27
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Totally cash bar, you need the option of a drink when my family all gets together! Laughing

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee

    This is a very interesting topic. My Fiance and I do not really drink. I may have a glass of wine, but that is it. Our guests on the other hand…LOL I think that I’d be stuck in the middle. A dry reception would mean that folks would leave early. A cash bar would be considered tacky. So I would offer wine at the tables and I like the idea of a spiked punch.
    We are having a host bar but we can buy our own liquor, so the cost is much cheaper.

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Tough question….

    From a guest perspective:

    I am not a big drinker.  If it came down to paying for an alcoholic drink or not having any alcohol, I’d choose no alcohol.  So, even if there was a cash bar, I would not be interested.

    As a bride:

    I know many family and friends like to drink, so I’d give them the option of a cash bar if I really could not find any way to afford an open bar.

    Post # 31
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I like alcohol at a party as much as the next person but I do not like having to pay for my own anything at a function someone else is hosting. If the hosts can’t afford something, they shouldn’t offer it. I don’t need it to enjoy myself at a party and would prefer to go without if the only other option is paying myself. Most people I know feel the same way, and while they may or may not drink alcohol themselves, they don’t want to pay either out of their own pocket and would rather drink just coffee, lemonade, punch, whatever that is free.

    You have to ask your guests what they prefer since WB is an international board with a plethora of different customs, backgrounds and “expectations”. You can’t take what the folks here say as gospel when it may not apply to your family and friends at all. At the same time, etiquette applies no matter what. Making guests pay for anything is considered bad manners but people do it anyway.

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