(Closed) Cash bar with free options?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Which would you choose?
    Hosted Beer and Wine Only (no other options) : (11 votes)
    10 %
    Hosted Beer and Wine with Signature Drink (no other oprions) : (38 votes)
    34 %
    Hosted Beer and Wine with Cash Bar : (22 votes)
    19 %
    Hosted Beer, Wine, & Signature Drink with Cash Bar : (42 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Go for the cash bar, you don’t have to follow every little bit of etiquette when it comes to weddings, you can adapt to suit your budget and needs 😀

    Post # 5
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    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think a partial cash bar is perfectly fine as long as you are offering free options – like your beer, wine and signature drink.  I say go for it!

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think offering beer and wine will be plenty for most people. You can have a signature drink too, but I don’t think it’s necessary. I’m just having beer and wine at my wedding, and that’s how it’s been at other weddings I’ve been to.

    Post # 7
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    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We’re doing this because our venue is a restaurant with a fully stocked bar already. We preselected a nice beer/wine list and will be advertising this as what’s available to our guests. There’s a sheet in the program (for the transition between ceremony and cocktail hour) and will be signs on the bar. If someone wants liquor beyond that, the bartender will start a tab for them.

     

    ETA – I voted “with signature drink” though, because you should be able to drink at your own wedding and that’s the only thing you like.

    Post # 8
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I personally believe you should host your guests fully, so I would go with hosted beer/wine and signature drink if that’s what you can afford.  I was raised with the notion that no one should ever take out a wallet at a function you host, so that’s what I go off of when I look at these sorts of issues. 

    Only you know your guests.  You have to figure out how your guests would feel about a cash bar.  In my social circle, it would be a major faux pas to have a cash bar, but in others, it’s completely acceptable.  So really, it depends on your guests and your own personal feelings.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    People will surprise you- I thought Future Father-In-Law would want whiskey at the wedding, and he’s happy with red wine. 

    Could you just add bourbon, and not other hard liquor?

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think partial cash bar is a nice compromise. At my wedding we had beer, wine and champagne and that was it. This way there are free options and the option to purchase different liquor. Plus I would go for the signature drink too because I think that’s a cool touch and I would definitely drink it!

    Post # 11
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    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @kybride2012:  We are doing beer/wine with cash for other options. We were going to do a signature drink, but it was mainly for me and what I wanted. Since we’re footing the bill anyways I can just have them bill us for my mixed drinks (which they said are usually on the house for the bride/groom). I’m in Kentucky too! I don’t think Bourbon is girly at all-I can’t drink it!

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Fiance and I are strong drinkers– we like to drink and we have our favorite choices.  I’d rather have the option of liquor and have to pay for it than not have the option at all.  

    Post # 14
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    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    OP go for beer, wine and cash bar. Then people can choose more expensive options if they want to, but you’re still being more than generous for the majority of people. We aren’t having any spirits on the advice of our caterer, who says they tend to lead to some guests getting “a bit silly” Wink

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Go with what you can host.  Guests should not have to pay for anything at your wedding.

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    For most weddings I would say just do beer and wine and a signature drink. However if your fiance’s family would not drink those options then a partial cash bar is a great option. I don’t think it’s a breach of etiquette.

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