(Closed) Cash gifts for a wedding – tacky? or just fine?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If you don’t register anywhere, people will get the hint that you want cash. I wouldn’t do this MyRegistry website.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

Having a blatant cash registry seems a little tacky and may not be well received by your guests. Having a cash registry implies that you are demanding money from your guests. If you don’t want dishes, don’t have a registry. A lot of people will reflexively give you money even if you don’t have a cash registry anyway. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

I’m in the minority. I don’t think it’s tacky at all. Your guests, which I assume are your friends and family, hopefully know you well enough not to assume you’re as selfish and money-grabbing as everyone on these boards like to make it seem.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Just don’t register. People will get the hint. Yes, asking for cash is in poor taste. It’s a wedding not a charity event. 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you don’t want “things”, don’t register for things. People will give you cash or a check. If anyone asks, tell them you have the “things” you need, but are saving up for _____.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

There is this new thing where you can register for cash for something specific like a honeymoon or a house. From what I’ve read on the subject it gives people the opportunity to give money to something specific, i.e. a safari excursionon an already planned honeymoon or to the honeymoon itself. You can even set it up as funds for a house and whatnot. in terms of how people felt about it the majority said ppl were more excited to give their money to something specific instead of just giving cash. It’s an option to look up. I think it is better than a cash section on a registry. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Just don’t register.  People will get the hint. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I am in the minority too. I prefere direction in giving a gift whether it be goods, honeymoon, home remodeling or straight cash. I hate when people don’t register at all because I don’t like to assume what they want

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Perfpersnickety:  That is exactly the same as the site the OP is talking about. Basically they just cut you a cheque at the end after taking out pretty hefty fees or worse charging your guests hefty fees.

No experiences are actually bought.

Sorry but anyone who uses registries like is in my opinion are stupid. Would you rather your guest put $100 in a card or pay $100 to a website for you to recieve $90.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Giving cash is fine. Asking for cash is bad and registering for it is even worse.

Post # 12
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Honey bee

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bostonbride2016:  I don’t know about any fees with MyRegistry.com, but my daughter set-up a Honeyfund account, and it was very popular for both shower and wedding gifts. She didn’t link it to PayPal or a credit card. Guests chose their gift online and later gave them a check/cash, so absolutely no fees were paid or collected.

Everyone who gave a gift at the wedding put it inside a card – the birdcage was full, but nothing to carry home in boxes or bags.

 

Post # 13
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Newbee

I’m in the minority too. We’ve been together for 5 years, live in a small apartment and have everything we need and then some! Our families have all asked and said they still want to give us a gift anyway so we’re doing a wishing well for them.

All of our friends are in the same type of position and have done the same thing for their weddings over the past few years (in Australia. It might be less usual in the US). It hasn’t been tacky at all and the people who wanted to still bring gifts still did so.  We put the following message on our website and in our invitation pocketfold for the less internet savvy.

 

With the majority of guests traveling to join us on our special day, gifts are not expected although a Wishing Well will be available at the reception for cards and well wishes. If we are honoured to receive a gift from you as we celebrate our marriage, may we respectfully request a monetary gift.

More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,<br />Our home has been filled with love and care.<br />Everything we need we’ve already got, <br />And in our home we can’t fit a lot!<br />With special travel plans to follow our day, <br />a small gift of currency would help us on our way. <br />No need to go overboard or rob a bank, <br />Whatever your gift, it will be received with thanks.”

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 9 months ago by  PlanningAhead.
Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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j_jaye:  Oh wow! I have not actually seen the site I just read about it so I did not know how it worked hence my telling her to look into it herself. That is crazy. 

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