(Closed) Cash not presents?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’ve seen this question before on the boards.  First thing is you don’t ask for gifts on your wedding invitation. Meaning you don’t put registered at Macy’s etc.  You only put that information on the shower invites.  So my point here is that most guests won’t get invited to the showers and therefore won’t know either way and will probably ask word of mouth.  So your best bet is to let you family know that you’d prefer cash and they can let others know when they ask.  As for the shower invites I don’t think it is proper to put cash only.  I’ve seen people put gift card amounts on their registry so that might be an option.

Post # 4
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Umm…you can’t. Like vintage said there have been lots of posts on this and I think the general rule of thumb has been you can’t ask specifically for that. You can however drop hints and clues that thats what you want. I’m doing a registry but my family is also well aware of the fact that money would be greatly appreciated (mom and sister have made casual comments about how we really have everything we need and cash is always a good idea, when people ask). But think about it like this, if someone asked what you wanted for your birthday would you flat out say cash? Or would you try to be a little more subtle about it?

Post # 5
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it has to be word of mouth.  I don’t know whether you should do a full-size registry anyway… at least that way, even if you don’t get things you need, you won’t get 10 random plates or vases or something. 

We’re really struggling with this too… I wish I had the answer!

Post # 6
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Like some of the other girls said, you can’t ask for cash.  Just don’t make a registry and if people buy you presents anyway, return them.

Post # 7
Member
581 posts
Busy bee

I first look at the registry.  Then I consider where the couple is in their life. If there is a substantial item on the registry, I’d get that (because I do like to shop).  But with so many young people living on their own and having already purchased most of what they need, I usually end up giving cash.  Unfortunately, other than word-of-mouth and luck there is no real way to control it.

Post # 8
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We wanted mostly cash.  We had family spread it by word of mouth.

Post # 9
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You don’t. It’s rude and innapropriate to ask for anything!

HOWEVER…it is ok to let your Maid/Matron of Honor know, in case people ask her

🙂

Post # 10
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185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We too have two adult households that we are combining and are having a hard enough time getting rid of the two-of-everything that already exist. We created a honeymoon registry through travelersjoy.com that way if people wanted to give something they could help us with the honeymoon. Frankly, the money goes to the company, they take a cut for the service and then you get the rest. It is a way of actually receiving cash. We would never be able to afford our honeymoon without it.

Post # 11
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Our friends who just got married never put together a registry since all they wanted was cash and their envelope holder was bursting on their wedding day. 

Unfortunatley, there is no good way to tell people this is what you want. You can hint to people through your parents, but tell them to be careful and very subtle. Like say something along the lines of “We wondered what to get them too since they already have enough ‘stuff’ so we just are giving them cash! I think that’s what other people are doing too.”

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