Post # 1
Which would you rather have?
We are going to a friend’s wedding (actually we are friend’s with Both bride and groom) in a couple of weeks. They’re an established household. They did not register and do not want material gifts.
We could give them a cash-stuffed card (which is what they gave us, and we were flattered by their generosity). But I’ve been toying with the idea of treating them to a hotel stay, as I’ve got a crapload of Hilton points. They are paying for the wedding themselves, have custody of two kids from her first marriage, and are not planning a honeymoon. And I feel kinda bad for them not having a honeymoon budget.
Would you rather have a little lump of cash to help pay the wedding bills, or 2-3 nights at a hotel of your choice (from within the Hilton family)? Would you prefer to be asked or surprised? If we surprise them with the hotel gift, we wouldn’t actually book the hotel because we don’t know where/when. So we’d put something fun inside their card.
FWIW cash gift would probably be around $200; 2 or 3 nights in a hotel could be anywhere from $300-900+ value depending on where. We can totally afford the cash gift. Just trying to be sure we are not projecting our preference for travel on our friends.
Post # 3
I would love the hotels since I get to pick when and where.
Post # 4
I would SOOO love the hotel gift. Especially since it would be a nice treat I doubt they would feel good about spending money on themselves!
Edit: plus this point… “2 or 3 nights in a hotel could be anywhere from $300-900+ value depending on where” I would jump ALL OVER that!
Post # 5
I love travel (and also have a crapload of Hilton points!), so would be psyched about getting the hotel stay. But yeah, I would also be worried about projecting my preferences on to them. I also feel like people who don’t travel a lot don’t necessarily appreciate the value of your hard-earned points/miles (I’ve been a little burned there).
Given that they’re good friends, I don’t think it would hurt to ask them which they’d prefer.
Post # 6
At first I thought cash, but since they aren’t having a honeymoon and they can pick when and where they want to go, I’d give them the hotel. Great gift!
Post # 7
I will ask them. Just trying to word it right 🙂
I just don’t want them to think we are trying to cheap out. I’ve got a pile of airline miles plus all sorts of other hotel brand points too but I don’t want to give them too many options; kind of seems “yard sale-y” if I were to say “You can have 2 domestic coach tickets on United, or I can get you to Europe if you go in the winter, or 3 nights at any Hilton or 2 at any Radisson” etc.