Post # 31
I see absolutely nothing wrong with a cash bar once your guest know ahead of time. I never carry cash. I am having an open bar because its within our budget and also we can’t sell alcohol at our venue we have to give it away.
The way I look at is no matter how much you do to try to please your guest, someone is going to complain about something. So with that being said, do what is financially best for you
Post # 32
I don’t think it’s rude if you do a cash bar, but a lot of people now expect open bar and don’t come with money. Maybe give the drinkers a heads up. Or you could always do a wine and beer open bar, with no hard alcohol.
Post # 33
I don’t think it’s rude to provide a cash bar. Not everyone has the money to have an open bar or even a beer and wine bar, but most people want to drink at weddings. I think it’s nice to offer your guests the option of drinking, rather than them not having the option at all or – worse – finding ways to sneak alcohol into the venue (my cousins would do that).
In my circles open bar is just the most common way to do it. In addition, I don’t want to have to bring cash to my OWN wedding! And I don’t want my guests to have to bring cash, either. I have very simple tastes as far as everything else goes, so I have no problem spending a little less on my flowers, cake, invitations, etc., so that my friends and family can have an open bar that night 🙂 Just a personal preference, though.
Post # 34
All the weddings I have been to have had two bottles of wine per table and a cash bar… so that’s what I am doing as both myself, fiance and our friends and family aren’t really big drinkers and it was an extra 45 dollars per person for an open bar… it’s totally up to you two to decide as it’s your day.
Post # 35
We are choosing to do a $2 bar, since it’s sort of in between the two. We figured there would be less waste that way too. We’ll have champagne after the ceremony, wine on the table (white and red) then all alcoholic drinks will be $2/drink. It was just too expensive to do an open bar. Non-alcoholic drinks will be free.
Post # 36
We are having beer and wine for the guests and soda of course, if they want anything else it will be a cash bar. Rude sure, but it is what it is.
Post # 37
I totally agree with Miss Godiva!
I do not mind a cash bar, as long as I know ahead of time so I am prepared and have cash with me:) Nothing like a cash bar without any cash :/
I also like the idea of an open cocktail hour, and then a cash bar reception, or doing limited open wire with beer and wine.
what ever you do, its up to you:) its your day. If you have the money though, do an open bar. That is one of my must haves on my list. When in Vegas we are hosting a 2 hour reception with an open bar beer, wine, and well drinks:)
just my 2 cents;)
Post # 38
I think open bar is the way to go. It all depends on your budget and F&B minimums being met. You can do the open bar during your cocktail hour and offer a signature drink as well. If you are leaning more toward a cash bar for the reception this is a good way to being it becuase your guests will be more inclined to purchase drinks after drinking for an hour…to keep the party going. Its all about budget and personal opinion.
You can also do a hosted bar. Say you only have $500 budgeted for bar, put that up for your guests to use and once its gone the bar will turn into a cash bar. Offering your guests options is key!
Post # 39
I think a cash bar is tacky. I understand finances, but you should not have guests paying for anything at your wedding…..especially if they are bringing you a gift. If you can’t afford an open bar, then just offer non-alcoholic beverages. I am having an open bar and it came with the package for the venue. I’ve been to weddings with a cash bar and I don’t like it. If you want more than non-alcoholic beverages let your venue know how much you can spend on drinks and they will stop serving alcohol once your tab is used.
Post # 40
I voted open bar, but that is because that is what my friends and family expect. I think it totally depends on your friends and family, your culture, and what you can afford. I would not be offended if I went to a wedding with a cash bar, and I wouldn’t judge the bride and groom for it at all!
Post # 41
I think having an open bar during the cocktail hour and cash bar the rest of the night is a nice compromise. What if you just did signature cocktails for both??
Post # 42
We are having a little of both. We have an open bar for the cocktail hour, then during the reception we are having 3 signature drinks. 1- girlie drink something I like, 1- male drink that my Fiance picks and 1 beer. My new last name will be Miller and I am not a beer drink but we are going to have Miller beer. We set a $ on the signature drinks so we are hoping it can last throughout the night. Any drink outside the 3 signature drinks will be a cash bar. My fam and friends are heavy drinkers so we can’t even afford to do a fullopen bar, lol.
Post # 43
I’m not a big drinker either (in fact I don’t drink at all) but we are doing an open bar because it’s the hospitable thing to do. But I think limiting it to a certain time period is fine.
Post # 44
I’ve never been to a wedding with a cash bar, so to me it would be kind of awkward/rude. I don’t bring lots of money to weddings with me (enough for a cab ride home or some sort of emergency), so I’d be a little turned off. If you are doing it, I tihnk you have to warn guests with “Cokctail hour with cash bar is available” or something.
You could limit it to a beer and wine open bar, which makes it a lot cheaper for you than doing a full open bar. Also check into seeing if your venue allows you to provide your own alcohol, since that can save a lot of money, too.
Post # 45
@cameronwedding: This is just my opinon, but honestly I feel that it is rude to have a cash bar. I understand that you don’t drink but that doesn’t mean that your guests don’t, and I think you should want your guests to really enjoy themselves. We are having a 5 hour open bar. Or you could always provide just free wine and beer to cut down on costs – that’s what my sister did at her wedding a few months ago.