(Closed) Cash the checks before the wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I think you could definatly cash them before the thank you cards.  But maybe you should wait until after the wedding.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2005

Go ahead and cash them now and send a thank you before your wedding.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I agree. Cash them relatively close to the time you plan to send out the thank yous.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

I hate writing someone a check and then not cashing it…so the money still sits in my bank account and I forget that I wrote the check eventually and spend the money…  Anyway, I’d probably appreciate it if you cashed the check right away 🙂  But of course, maybe dont spend the money till after the wedding?   

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree you should cash the check and write the thank you right away. I’ve had my account go into overdraft because of a check I forgot I had written that someone didn’t cash right away.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Cash them but you should send thankyou notes now.  Acknowleding all wedding gifts received before the wedding as soon as you received them is polite.  People may worry if you received them and they may also be checking thier accounts to see if they have cleared.  Then send another thankyou later for attending the wedding and how nice it was to see them.  It not only shows people that you received the gift but it also allows you more time to get out some of the notes.  You have a little more leeway with thankyous for attending than for thankyous for a gift.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Hm, I’d never heard of writing thank yous for attending – is this normal practice? Gifts have been coming in so I’ve been writing thank yous to those people, but I wasn’t planning to send them anything after the wedding.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

You should try to send the thank you within two weeks of getting the gift, is what I have heard.  So you definately shouldn’t wait until after the wedding. 

I have no idea what the etiquette is on check cashing – I just know that I get really annoyed when it takes a check forever to clear.  So I would actually go ahead and cash them – presumably people wrote them with the money in their accounts, and it will be a chore for them to keep track of that one check that’s still not cashed.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

We’re doing "thank-you for the gift" before for anything recieved before the wedding, and then after the wedding we’re sending out thank-yous for everyone who gave us something at the wedding, and "thanks for attending" for those who were already thanked/didn’t give anything/etc.

I think it’s nice to thank people for attending the wedding as well as giving a gift, because really that’s why you invite people!

Post # 12
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Helper bee

If someone sent you a gift before the wedding and also attended it is nice to send an acknowledgement that they came to your party.  Especially if you are including a picture from the wedding.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

i would def cash it as soon as you get it. i don’t get my canceled checks sent to me (most people don’t anymore, as it’s all online), so i just assume that about a week after i have written a check, that $$ won’t be in my bank account. having to keep looking online to see whether a check has been deposited or not would be so annoying!

Post # 14
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Worker bee

Cash now, thank now.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

yeah, my wedding is tomorrow and I was wondering the same thing!  I decided to go down and cash them today, because I have had them for a few weeks (oops!)….I will write the thank you’s today, I promise!  all our checks so far have been from people who aren’t coming.  If they were, I would honestly probably hold off and do one thank you for gift and coming to the wedding!

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