(Closed) Casual thank you message before formal card okay?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I dis the same. Its fine.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@breadandbutterflies:  Yea, it’s fine. In the formal card, just thank them “once again for the lovely gift”. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

It is good that you acknowledged the gift, so they know that it has been received.

But, I think you should send the thank you now.  It is not polite to delay your gratitude so that you can send them a photo of yourself. 

If you are that keen on sending a photo, send a second mailing after the wedding.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Oh I understood what you meant. But the point remains. You do not delay thanking someone so that you can send them a photo of yourself, even in a photo thank you. Well at least not if you want to be polite.

This part is general and not directed at you, OP. It seems a little self important to think someone would rather have a picture of you, then a timely expression of gratitude. The more time that lapses the less grateful someone seems.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I agree, send it now and if you really want them to have a picture, send another later.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@andielovesj:  +1

You should just go to the store and get a generic thank you card to send out.  You really should be sending thank yous as soon as possible, rather than waiting for a card with your picture on it.  If you really want to send this person your personalized card, you could send one after the wedding with a message like, “Sally, thank you for attending our wedding and celebrating this new phase in our life with us.  It meant the world to have you there!  Thanks again for the awesome gift!  Love, B&G.”  (Although 3 thank yours for 1 gift seems a bit overkill to me, so I’ djust go with the generic one now…)

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