Post # 1
I am in the beginning stages of planning a casual wedding. We have the basics figured out:
-we are having close family & friends only which totals approx. 50 guests.
-we are having a beach ceremony (short, non-religious, already have the place booked)
-we are having our reception at a restaurant (already booked), which is a brewing company in a historic old building that used to be a candy factory. We have a private room and get to pick off of a party menu with entrees ranging from $16-21 per person, and open bar. There’s no dancefloor, but there is an Irish pub in the basement of the building that has one that we thought maybe we can have an “afterparty” and move down there if people feel up to it.
-no wedding party or attendants, just us!
So I’ve got these things figured out, but we were hoping to have a fun, laid back, relaxing weekend. We just really want to be surrounded by our family & friends (we’ve been together 8.5 years already, so it’s about time we got to celebrate 🙂 The place where we are getting married is about 2-2.5 hours away from where we & all of our guests live, so we are assuming most will want a hotel room. Also, there are many vineyards in the area so we thought maybe in lieu of a rehearsal dinner that people could go wine tasting with us on Friday night or there is a casino in the area too which I think my fiance’s fam will like! 🙂
I absolutely don’t want a big fancy wedding, and this sounds good to us but I feel like maybe it’s not enough to entertain guests? I’m not sure. Has anyone done a casual wedding and reception at a restaurant like this?
Post # 3
We did something similar….Small wedding ~40 adult guests, only a Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man, beach ceremony, reception at a beach house catered by a local restaurant. We got married 8 hours from home so instead of doing a tradiitonal rehersal we had a sort-of welcome BBQ (grilled chicken) at the beach house the night before. We also had no dancing besides our first dances and moved the reception from inside the house to outside the house during cocktail hour and cake cutting. The house also had a theatre room and game room which all the kids (~11 of them) used to stay entertained.
This was how we wanted our wedding. Small and intimate. I too was worried that our guests would get board, but honestly every single one of them told me that our wedding was the best wedding they had ever been to.
I think your wedding sounds lovely and that there will be plenty going on for your guests. I really like the idea of doing an after party at the Irish Pub and the wine tasting instead of a traditional rehersal dinner. I think that’s a great way to get your guests involved and to show them the area! Don’t stress.
Post # 4
@emster83: I think that sounds fantastic! We are having an after party at an Irish Pub (Half his family will be flying in from Ireland) and an outdoor tent reception in the afternoon.
Post # 5
@emster83: This warms my heart to know someone else has the EXACT same vibe we do! This is exactly what we are going for as well. We’ve been together for 5 years and we just want to make memories with our immediate family and make it a non-stressful, laid back event.
I love the wine tasting idea! Very clever! Have you thought about possibly going to a sporting event and inviting your guests (if you’re into that)? We are going as a group to a Giants game as we are all diehard SF Giants fans. (Secretly, my dream is to get married on a game day, throw on my black & orange Converse and go to the game after the ceremony in my wedding dress! Shh, don’t tell my honey. :P)
I think the welcome BBQ ia a great idea as well! We are planning on doing the same thing.
Im learning that the nice thing about DW’s is the flexibility in allowing your guests the option to participate in your pre-planned events or giving them a map and letting them go out on their own adventures. It kind of lets them personalize it to their likings… and who doesn’t like that!?
Post # 6
i didnt read the other replies, but i dont see why you have to have a big fancy wedding to entertain people. i have always heard that as long as there is good food and good people, everyone will be happy!
Post # 7
We’re doing the same thing pretty much just not on the beach. I think it’ll be wonderful because it’ll be more intimate and give us more time to enjoy our guests on the level we like to (we’re having about 30). We also were worried about just doing a dinner but we decided on the same thing you did and after we do our exit I’m going to change really quick and we’re going to do an optional after party at some pubs or bars. I don’t like wine personally but I love the idea of taking guests to a vineyard for wine tasting as a rehearsal dinner.
Post # 8
Hi emster83, we are also doing almost the same as yours. we haven’t decided the venue yet, but preferable by the beach…very short ceremony followed by reception. As of now, we have only about 30 guests to invite, just close friends and families. I am not too worried about the entertainment part, since there would be good food and friends & families and music!!! as long as they get along, it’s all good 😉 Morover we want all our guests to stay in the same hotel, there would be other things to occupy them before or after the wedding.. like the pool or the spa. and yes!! party on the wedding night! 😉
All the best! xoxo
Post # 9
Thanks everyone for the responses! I feel better knowing that others are doing similar things for their wedding! 🙂 And these all sound like great ideas! Best of luck and happy wedding days to all!
Post # 10
Hey emster! Just wanted to put in my two cents. If you think people will all stay definatly look into reservnig a block of rooms you should get a better rate that way and maybe even a free room for you and your groom.
Wine tasting sounds like a brilliant idea! Good luck with your planning!