(Closed) Casual Wedding – No seating chart? What was your experience?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 47
2300 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I really regret not doing at least reserved tables for direct family members. My uncle and his brood took the table that should have been for my mom, dad, siblings, etc… and my mom and direct family ended up at an outside table and my dad and stepmom were segregated off to a table way across the room.

My Mom was pissed at my Uncle and I felt so awful. My husband and I were fully prepared to give up the head table and trade places with my family outside, but my mom wouldn’t let us do that. I guess when she saw how badly I felt about it, she cooled off and insisted that we not worry about it, but I am always going to regret that.


My take on it: At the very minimum, do assigned tables, even if your wedding is under 100 people and you think it won’t be a problem.

Post # 48
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I know the OPs wedding has come and gone, but here are my two cents for some of the newer posts.

I’ve been to two weddings without assigned seating. One had enough seating for everyone, one didn’t.

TBH, it’s the only thing I can think about these weddings, even though one was one of the most high budgeted ones that I’ve been to! We ended up sitting next to an old couple (nothing wrong with that, but didn’t know them, and they didn’t seem interested in chatting), and a PAINFULLY shy couple that literally would only talk about sports, if anything (We’re talking a couple of sentences every few minutes…awkward). Then I went up to go to another station (this might also have had to do with the confusion of places, it wasn’t a buffet or plated–weddings in Charleston are often stations) and come back two minutes later–guess what! My seat was gone. Soooo I’m standing around. Great.

The other wedding was much more casual with enough seating for everyone, but basically everyone wanted to sit together (I was a date of someone, so it was not my place to butt in) and people were dragging tables and chairs across the room. Um, no thanks.

For our wedding, since it’s plated, we have to not only do assigned tables, but assigned seats. I haven’t dealt with that quite yet, but I know I haven’t been to a wedding with assigned seats in quite some time (mostly, it’s just tables).

Again, just my two cents.

Post # 49
6302 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I hate weddings without seating charts. 

Almost always people are rushing to get a seat/table. I feel the oposite of what others posted, I feel like without a seating chart you ARE chained to your table because if you leave it someone else is going to snatch it up. With a seating chart everyone has a “home base” for the evening to come back to for a break, to leave their stuff, etc. 

I’m biased though, because as a wedding photographer I attend far more weddings than the average person. So, for one bee to say the last 2 wedding’s they’ve attended have had no seating chart and were fine….I can say that out of the last 20 weddings I attended the ones that didn’t have seating charts just feel awkward during dinner. People who know each other usually sit together, often pulling in extra chairs – leaving tables empty. Some people don’t feel comfortable going up and sitting at a random table if they aren’t assigned there.

Everyone told us we were crazy for doing a seating chart. We had 200 guests and honestly, it took us 30 minutes to do our seating chart. IT was not difficult at all. 

Post # 50
1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We had a fairly formal outdoor wedding and didn’t have any sort of seating plan. I figured that everyone there was adult enough to find their own seat and move around at their own will. Worked out just fine. We had no problems.

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