Post # 1
I had 2 cats – brothers that I adopted at the same time about 6 or 7 years ago. I had to rehome one of them back in Sept to a friend (he was getting “raped/bullied” by his brother), who I have visited since then and he’s doing WONDERFULLY. He’s really happy and lost a lot of weight (he was very heavy) and I’m so happy for him.
We since moved out of NY, taking the cat that we kept, and bought a dog back in Dec. I’m sure all of these changes have been stressful for my cat.
As background – this cat is very skittish. We adopted them when they were at least 3 months old and they were like this from the start. They don’t like to be held, they get very scared when you try to grab them and pick them up (I’m not used to this – all my other cats have always been lap cats) and they would sleep on the bed, but at the foot of the bed.
Past few months, Tobi has been EXTRA affectionate. He meows all the time, follows me around, sits next to me (still won’t be ON me), and even sleeps with his head on my legs or feet if I’m on the couch, and sometimes even sleeps next to me and in my arms at night. He purrs a lot, too. Sometimes he uses my feet to clean himself (he licks my feet, then rubs his head against them lol).
This is SO uncharacteristic for him, I’m afraid something is wrong. Is that weird? I have never lost anyone close to me, but I have this crazy feeling like I can lose someone any day now and so now I think my cat is dying and I don’t know it and he’s just being affectionate during his last few months with me or something. I feel nuts writing that out. He had a vet visit in Nov and had a clean bill of health.
My FI thinks that he’s competing with the dog for my affection and that he only acts this way because the dog is affectionate with me and he wants to claim his territory so the dog knows I’m his.
Have your pets ever changed their personalities? Is this normal? Do you think he’s trying to tell me something or I’m being nuts? lol
Post # 3
Maybe he’s just maturing/mellowing out? We’ve only had our cat for about a year (he E’s 6 months old when we adopted him) and he’s waaaay more affectionate now.
Baring any symptoms of illness, that would be my best guess.
Post # 4
When you introduce new environments (houses/apartments or other animals and people) its not uncommon for the behavior to change of an animal. I think your FI is probably right. He simply wants your attention.
Everytime our dog leaves the house for a period of time (IE my mom watches her for a month for some reason etc or I bring her with me to visit family) one of our cats (we have 2) behaves very differently.
Post # 5
Ahh, ok. He doesn’t seem sick in any other respect, except his fur his thinned out but the vet said it was nothing. He still eats fine and he doesn’t hide any more than he used to (which I know is a sign of pain for cats). He’s now curled up into a ball and laying right up against my legs. It’s so cute, I’m definitely enjoying the affection/attention. I do wish he would let me hold him and he would sit on my lap, but beggar’s can’t be choosers lol
Post # 6
@futuremrsk18: He lost weight yeah? A healthy animal is a happy one 😉
Post # 7
My cat I have now used to be very skittish, couldn’t hold her, she wouldn’t come near us etc. we put her sister down in December and since then…. She does not leave my side for a second…. She’s turned into the biggest suck ever.
since she has a clean bill of health…. Maybe she just mellowed out, your cat could be mourning the loss of it’s friend.
Post # 8
@RockStar33: OMG what if our cats are being extra affectionate b/c they’re scared we’re going to get rid of them?! lol My cat is probably thinking, “My brother got taken away.. crap, I’m next..” lol I’m only kidding. I’m very sorry to hear that you had to put your cat down 🙁
@Flanders: His brother lost weight. He hasn’t lost any weight, we haven’t changed his diet or anything, but he was always the skinnier one. His brother was 25+lbs before he lost weight. But maybe he is happy.. maybe he’s happy now without his brother, he was attacking him, it was really sad.
Post # 9
@futuremrsk18: Ahhh sorry my mistake. That really does explain it though. My mom had two Chow Chows for YEARS upon years. The one passed last year from heart attack and since then the othen one really seems to be doing better. She’s a better weight, she plays more eagerly with the other dogs in spite of her advanced age and she gets around more. Previously she was cranky, aggressive with the other dogs and really kept to herself. Strangely enough, he sister humped her too…weird heh?
Post # 10
Is it possible you’re pregnant? I’ve seen cats and dogs go APESHIT for pregnant women, it’s weird…
Post # 11
@KhaleesiStormborn: LOL omg, no I’m not pregnant, but that is hilarious! I wonder how my furbabies are going to react when I get pregnant.
@Flanders: I adopted both because I didn’t want to split them, but years later it seems like it’s not always the best to have 2 animals together, huh?