Post # 1
We’re in the process of buying a house, and we’re going to need to decide what to do with our cats.
We don’t allow them in our bedroom at all and never have, but they otherwise have free run of our apartment during the day. The problem comes at night, when one of our cats insists that he has to be allowed in our bedroom and it’s a matter of life or death and he cannot possibly survive if we don’t open the door. He meows loudly and constantly, and scrabbles at the door. He’s a very friendly cat and just wants to be with us. I’m sure they’d sleep happily in our bedroom, but my husband doesn’t want it and being 2yo, they’re young enough to want to get into everything so I agree to keep them out. His brother will sleep quietly in the beds on the landing.
They have various toys, a big cat tree and lots of space to play with each other. We try not to deal with any boredom by feeding them as they are tubby but they do have a ‘treat tray’ which means they have to work to get biscuits. He’ll do the same during the day if one of us goes into the bedroom for more time than he feels is acceptable. He’s worst in the early hours, I guess when the sun is coming up. I suspect over their first winter we were getting up at sun rise for a while and he thought that was the routine.
We tried ignoring him (he doesn’t stop before our tolerance wears out) and shouting at him but he only stops briefly. We put double sided sticky tape on the door to deter the scratching but that didn’t work either, and we just started shutting them both in downstairs at night. We can’t hear him shouting then, but I am 99% sure he isn’t.
The problem is that our new house doesn’t have a door between the downstairs and the upstairs, and there isn’t a large enough space that we would consider shutting them in a room over night. I’m wondering whether our only choice will be to use ear plugs so that we can’t hear him and he’ll stop after a few nights/weeks.
In terms of the new house, we will have a conservatory and plan to cat proof the garden, either with secure fencing or more likely a pen which they’ll have catflap access to. Currently we live on a main road so don’t let them out at all, but I’m not expecting that some outside access will stop him wanting to be with us overnight completely.
Has anybody faced this issue and if so, how did you overcome it?
Post # 2
My cat is like this as well – he just wants to be near us at all times and will make as much noise as possible to get our attention. We tried letting him roam the apartment at night and he’d always end up in our room, making so much noise because we aren’t responding to him. Ear plugs didn’t work because he’d end up jumping on us and yelling in our faces and climbing all over us. That, and my husband is allergic to cats so he’d rather not have the cat in his face every night.
We ended up putting him in the second bedroom at night – he stays quiet, he’s got all his needs in that room, and we get peaceful sleep.
Is there any way of putting a baby gate up so the cats can’t get upstairs? You might still have to wear ear plugs if he meows loud enough but at least it’ll stop the door scratching.
Post # 3
Oh man, same here. Damn cats. I put everything and anything in front of my bedroom door at night. Try putting the vacuum there, a chair, ANYTHING! It scares them for a day or two but then the scratching starts back up. If you find a solution, please message me!
These cats have sharpened their claws through the sheetrock. Everything in my apartment is ruined by these 2.
Post # 4
Having the same trouble here!
Only thing that’s worked is that we installed a door at the bottom of the stairs so now we can’t hear them at all. Before that, we shut them in a room that was away from the bedroom (big enough that they can play, sleep, eat, drink and poop for the 8 hours that we slept).
In our previous house, then tried to get into the bedroom so much that they had shredded the carpet in the hallway to bits that I had to put a blanket over it because it was just floorboard! They knew the scratching drove me crazy so I’d end up letting them in after about 5 minutes of it! Safe to say I take up all carpets where the cats are now because it cost a fortune to replace!
I also play with them like crazy before bed so they end up so tuckered out before I go to bed that they sleep for at least 6 hours of it and wreck havoc for the remaining 2, which sucks but means I get my REM sleep!
ALSO get laser pointers and while you’re on your phone at night, just absent-mindlessly move them about and that’ll get the cats using a lot of energy!
Good luck!!! Every cat is different so just try absolutely everything you can think of for atleast 2 nights and see what sticks!
Post # 5
emilyjoanna : Soon2BMrsFredericks : peggy92 : At least it’s not just us?!
We should be able to put a baby gate up, but they are young and healthy so I doubt it’ll keep them out for long. If we put anything ‘solid’ at the top of the stairs, our door is right next to where he’d be scratching that so I’m not sure how feasible it is unfortunately.
On the bright side, moving house feels like the ideal opportunity to start a new routine/train a new behaviour so we need to be on it from day 1.
I’m watching them both snooze now (it’s 2pm, I’m working from home) and thinking maybe we need to get them more active during the day. If we let them roam outside in the new house that would probably have the desired effect, but we don’t want them decimating the wildlife or getting hurt/lost. I’ve come across some hunt-simulating feeders so might give those a go, we just have to make sure whatever the routine is we can sustain it. 🙂
Post # 6
Try aluminum foil on the floor in front of your door. Most cats hate aluminum foil.
Post # 7
anev : hmmm interesting! I have a similar issue and might try this. Thanks!
Post # 8
BeeDD : Pics, please? I have no suggestions as our giant deamon cat sleeps in his own room, I’m just here for the photos of chubby kitties. Please and thank you.
Post # 9
Miss-Mauverick : I can help with the chubby kitty pics lol
Post # 10
emilyjoanna : That is one cuddly belly!
Miss-Mauverick : This is Kirk up high and noisy Spock on the floor (we had to move the furniture temporarily)
You can imagine how I giggle each time we get a call out at the vets or pet-related post addressed to Captain Kirk and Commander Spock 😉
Post # 11
emilyjoanna : It’s so fluffy!!! Love the chubby kitty belly.
BeeDD : OMG, dying at their names. Well done, OP.
Thank you both for the kitty pics and smiles. Here is our giant (25lbs) demon kitty, Malfoy.
Post # 12
I don’t really have any advice, but I can relate. Our cats are super social and needy, they NEED to be by our side. My husband had cat allergies so as a precaution we did not let them in our room for 2 years. It was the same scenario you described. It did not get better in two years. They would bang against the door. We have french doors to the room and they actually snapped the molding on one of the doors.
Eventually we caved when we were convinced Darling Husband was “immune” and we let them in. They both just sleep on the end of the bed and dont make a peep now.
So no real advice.. I think some cats just refuse to take no for an answer.
Post # 13
Lol, this thread is great. Cats ruining all of our lives. Mine also apparently don’t learn they aren’t allowed on the counters either. I squirt them a million times with a water bottle, but they don’t give a fu#%! 🤣 Here are my PITA’s! They look so cute but they aren’t.
Post # 14
BeeDD : try feeding them wet food before bedtime it will knock them out and they will be too tired to play. Sometimes I have to do this with my fur baby’s. it puts them to sleep for at least 4-5 hours and by the time they wake up I’m in a deep sleep.
Post # 15
You might just have to contain them in a bedroom at night, worst case scenario. It might be small but it’ll have to do if he won’t give up.