(Closed) Cat owner advice

posted 5 years ago in Pets
Post # 2
38 posts
  • Wedding: October 2015

Hey there! I’m sorry to hear that you are having problems with your kitty. Has anything changed recently? A new member (furry or otherwise) coming to the house? Maybe someone leaving? My cats are very sensitive to change, and have basically the same behaviors. (I have some cats with my parents, and one with my FI). I know that when he leaves for the weekend to come see me, our cat gets upset and when he gets back attacks his ankles. She also does it when she is desperate for attention after he’s been gone or when our dog spends the week with me instead. We know that this is what upsets her, and we’ll be living together soon, so we anticipate this will solve her anxieties  


I know this isn’t really advice, but I would just try to identify what could be making her upset and try to avoid doing that thing. It could literally be as simple as a new perfume or a different kind of litter. If it’s in response to a change, be it person or animal, I would hope that the new house helps her relax a little- after she adjusts. You can also ask for advice from a vet. It could be she isn’t feeling well, like a urinary tract infection or something along those lines. If it turns out that it’s not disease related, there is also product called FeliWay that is supposed to help, its a pheromone that comes in sprays and collars. They also may consider the kitty version of Xanax- but that would be an absolute last resort if they have ruled everything else out  


Tl;dr: check for changes in environment or routine that may be upsetting, get with a vet and check for a potential health problem (like a UTI), discuss with them your options.

Post # 3
2087 posts
Buzzing bee

Honestly it sounds like teenage cat issues to me. Every cat I’ve had since kittenhood went through this in one way or another. I wish I could upload a video, I’d show you my moms latest kitten growling at me when I gave him wet food. 

I would avoid picking her up when you can. A lot of cats dont like being picked up, and perhaps becoming a teenager has made her voice her displeasure with it.

Post # 4
1391 posts
Bumble bee


Post # 6
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

My cat still doesn’t like being picked up, as she now associates it with being put in her travel box or having her teeth cleaned. 

I wouldn’t suggest getting a playmate, as most cats prefer to be alone, there was a documentary about this and how stressful it can be for cats to share territory (even if they’re related!). 

Is there any chance she might be in pain? If she’s been spayed it might be an uncoftable area for her to have touched. 

Hope this gets easier for you! 

Post # 7
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We have 2 10 month old kittens. We got them (and their entire litter) at 3 1/2 weeks old.  They were the result of my neighbors un-fixed outdoor cat colony.  We didn’t want 5 more cats roaming the neighborhood so we took them in and did a program through a local shelter and we raised them until they were old enough for adoption so we’ve literally had them for almost their entire lives..

They’re getting into the “teenage” stage and they can be more skiddish and the female can be a little more spunky as far as putting out her claws to be put down, etc. 

Personally, if mine were behaving like yours I would take her to the vet just to be checked out.  You never know what’s going on.  Our dogs got into a pretty serious fight one time and it ended up being that the one dogs paw was hurt so when her sister walked past she bumped it and she freaked out. 

Post # 10
1054 posts
Bumble bee

If she’s scratching shes likely bored, plus it’s normal for a cat to scratch.  Do you have scratching posts set up for her? Set them up near/ in front of the furniture she likes to scratch at and make sure she has plenty of places she’s allowed to Scratch. 

Post # 11
2120 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Kittens are JERKS when they’re 1-3 years old. Seriously. She could be feeling territorially insecure from the scent of other outdoor cats, and having her own room could be feeding into that. It’s probably getting worse as she gets older. Definitely check out some episodes of My Cat From Hell. Jackson Galaxy is seriously the best with cats. Most cats have the same behavior issues – lack of play, territory issues, and fear. It honestly sounds like yours is the second.

Post # 12
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know you said she is healthy but healthy as of when? I would start by taking her to the vet for an exam to make sure that there is not a medical issue causing her pain or discomfort which is then causing her to act out. 

I do have a cat with fairly serious behavioral/neurological issues but I wouldn’t start by assuming your cat’s issues are behavioral. 

Could living with other cats be causing her stress? You could try something like Feliway diffuser which can help cats in stressful situations, especially with multiple cats. 

Post # 14
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: The Mansion at Valley Country Club

As long as she continues to eat, drink, use the litter box, and play, I’d agree with a PP and say it might be a moody teenage female thing. I’ve found females aren’t typically as willing to be cuddled as they age. They will, but on their own terms. They tend to be more territorial and less trusting than males.

Definitely try to adopt her a pal before she reaches two years old, as under-twos are the best for introducing. A lot of bad behavior is often caused by excess energy, and having a buddy can help burn off hers. Also, try doing a long play session every night around the time you’ve noticed her acting up. Play with a stick toy or laser right at the scratching post to remind her that’s where she’s supposed to scratch. (Cats like to scratch while playing, so playtime is the best time to positively reinforce good scratching habits.)

**I’ve owned and fostered more cats than I’d care to admit and volunteered for a rescue for five years. Girls just tend to be more moody and stereotypically cat-like than males, in my opinion. There are exceptions, of course, but she just might be growing into her adult personality and showing a little bit of attitude (especially if she’s a tortie). Personally I like a little bit of ‘tude in my cats, lol.**

  • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  Mrs. Puffer. Reason: ugh, typos
Post # 15
1054 posts
Bumble bee

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halfling:  she really should have more than one. There are lots of cheap less than $10 ones you can buy while you save up for a fancy one! They are also easy to DIY if you or your husband are least bit crafty. If she’s specifically going for a chair thay you don’t want her to ruin you can get caps for her nails. 

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