- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
Hello again, bees 🙂 I have missed this amazing community so much. I’ll start by saying that I’m not TTC again yet, but some amazing things have been happening lately.
As many of you will remember, my husband was in an accident back in December of 2012. He sufferred a traumatic brain injury that required surgery, along with several broken bones. He spent 2 months in the ICU and 2 more months in rehabilitation hospitals. I’m proud to say he’s now been home with me for almost 3 months.
My DH isn’t back to his old self by any means, but he has been getting better all the time. First he was in a coma, then he woke up. He was on a ventilator, then he could breathe on his own. He couldn’t talk because of the tracheostomy, now he talks up a storm. He had serious post traumatic amnesia but thankfully he is out of that phase now.
He has hemiplegia from his brain injury, which means he can’t move the left side of his body. He uses a wheelchair and he still has many cognitive limitations, but he’s smart as a whip. He’s learning to use a cell phone and has been texting me with it. It’s been a long journey and I still have to do a lot to take care of him, but he’s coming back. Sadly, he still doesn’t fully understand the situation he’s in.
We recently became intimate for the first time in 7 months, after he initiated. It was definitely different, but it was also so romantic and wonderful to feel so close to him again. This is a huge milestone for us.
Of course, my immediate thoughts turned to TTC. I know that he is in no position to be a fully involved parent at this time. I also don’t know when or if that will ever happen. I also know that I am in no position to take care of both him and a baby, but we both want to have children of our own so badly.
So tell me bees, what would you do in my situation? Would you just throw caution to the wind and proceed without protection? I’m 30 and I’m afraid I’ll lose my chance for us to conceive if I wait too much longer to try. Would you use protection for a while until things get easier? I know it sounds like a no brainer, but my emotions tend to rule my life lately. I’d appreciate your thoughts.