Post # 1
In our extremely non-traditional, live music bar-setting wedding, we were hiring the bar’s kitchen staff and chef (who is also our friend) to cater with light fare. This was going to save a TON of money. Yesterday I get the email that he has a family wedding out of town that weekend, so he just can’t do it (with profuse apology, and I’m less mad than I am bummed).
So now we’ve got to figure out our options.
1) Have it straight up catered. Probably more money that we are able to spend.
2) Do it ourselves. This idea stresses me out to no end. I’m already quietly stressing out that the in-laws have offered to do the cupcakes, cookies, and a side dish or two to go with our light fare. SO promises me his mom and sisters are aces at this kind of thing so I’m trusting it’ll be fine. But for ALL of it?
3) Make it a pot luck wedding. This strikes me as…tacky.
Any suggestions? Since there’s no option for a sit down meal, and very little space to sit and eat in our venue, we need to keep it simple and snacky (and not saucy and drippy!).
Post # 3
What kind of food are you thinking?
Could you buy platters from a local place and pick them up? That way you wont need to spend money having a caterer come in, but you wont have the stress of cooking all the food.
Post # 4
What time is your wedding?
Post # 5
Maybe do a fix your own sandwich type thing? With breads, deli meats, cheese’s, veggies. Then a few salads and maybe chips? We went to a wedding and they did this, and it was awesome and refreshing from the typical sit down. And not messy!
Post # 6
Maybe you could do half catered/half DIY?
I’m planning to do my candy buffet, along with some sides that I don’t think a cater can make better than me, and some snacky snack things. I’m having the rest catered from whichever BBQ place we decide to use.
Post # 7
I’ve read on here of brides hiring food trucks, which I think is a fun and unique idea!
Post # 8
Hmm, great ideas ladies!
We hadn’t decided on specific menu items yet, we were waiting for confirmation from our friend and some quotes about a few specialties he makes. We just knew we wanted a diverse collection of h’ors d’oeurves, and lots of them, since we aren’t serving a dinner.
Post # 9
@deetuned: What about getting stuff ordered and delivered by a restaurant?
Post # 10
Is the kitchen staff still available even if the chef is not? You could get hors d’oevres from a caterer, deli, even Sams or Costco and they can reheat them.
Post # 11
I’m waiting for confirmation that the service staff will be available, he believes they are. If they’re not, I’ll have to hire some folks I suppose, but I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it..
Post # 12
This turned in to way more drama than I expected….
I emailed The Moms to let them know what was up with this and to give them a general monthly update (they are both very long distance). Future Mother-In-Law replies with a list of “should dos” that are pretty contrary to specific things I said I wanted and didn’t want, and not just with the food.
MY mother? My mother replies with “BTW, what’s the date of the wedding?”. Ouch.
Sitting down with my beau to try to come up with solutions for this predicament was just as crushing. Every suggestion I had, he shot down, saying it was too much money, as if this was the first time we were ever having any discussion about food and beverage and what it will all cost. Our friend was going to save us money, but he wasn’t doing it for free. The suggestions I had were adding between $200 and $400 to the ultimate bill and we wouldn’t have to stress about it ourselves, and he refuses, and says “let’s just serve chips and salsa, no one will care” (insert my mortified face here). After a while I suggested we talk about it after a full night’s sleep, and I went to bed. And now this morning he didn’t say a word to me and left the house while I was in the shower. This never happens.
Whine whine whine. I could go on but I won’t. Thanks for listening.
Post # 13
Could you do a heavy appetizer reception and have friends/or friends-of-friends help with cooking and baking? That would cut costs a lot, and you’d basically just have to hire some staff to pass the appetizers around.
Post # 14
Could you do half/half? Half appetizers or something you could make ahead of time and served chilled? Salads, pasta salad, chips and salsa, etc. and then just have a caterer do the main dish?
Post # 15
Could you just hire a private chef to come in and cook in that kitchen for the day? The same as your friend was going to do?
Post # 16
second PP question: what time of day is the reception?