- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
I’ll save you all the rant and tell you the basics:
When we hired our caterer, we agreed on 3 things, an Indian dish, Vegan food, and linens/napkins.
When I told her I wanted to get some unique table runners on Ebay from India, she said, “That’s not fair, I feel cheated. It’s just as much work for me if you get the linens elsewhere.” I said, “It’s just runners, and we’re getting the centerpieces ourselves too, so deal with it.”
When I told her that a green eggplant curry won’t be a crowd-pleaser, and that she should consider a masala or korma (less spicy) she told me, “You know we are not a traditional Indian catering complany.” I said, “I know but we agreed on having at least one Indian dish, and I ‘m only asking you to consider something else, that honestly would be even easier for your chef to make.” She said, “Well it’s not going to taste like your grandma’s cooking, it will be our style.” She was very vague about what her style is, and keeps saying to “trust her” And of course, I’d love to trust her, but she’s being vague and kind of rude honestly!
When I asked about having a tasting, she said it would be $250.00 for me and my fiance, even though they are charging us $38.00/plate. She said the rest is for the work involved. My issue is that she hosts free tasting a few times a season, and the last time we were there for a tasting, she said she could not offer us anything vegan so we couldnt go to the free and public tasting. So why should we have to pay when others get a free tasting? She could have had the chef whip a little something up for us on the side of the free tasting but she refused!
She has been asking me personal questions about our budget, like why it’s changed, saying she doesnt understand. I told her, “Well if you must know, our parents have pitched in a bit.”
She called me after signing the contract and paying the non-refundable deposit saying that she is worried that she might not be the right caterer for me, as I have a “tall-order” which we do not, and that she “feels like things are spiraling out of control.” I asked her to explain and she couldn’t, I kind of realized that she really didn’t like us DIY’ing things! She gets an 18% service charge just for her calling the lighting people or ordering the linens. I want to do that myself and save that 18% We are on a budget!
Help! She has not been the nice person she was before we signed and paid! I am trying my best to be firm, but nice at the same time! We can’t afford to lose the $2,000 non-refundable deposit we paid, we have to make this work!