Post # 1
Right I am currently trying to figure out how I can keep numbers and consequently costs down, but invite guests so that my extended family don’t kick off.
My sister suggested one way to do this is to invite people to the disco part of the reception only to avoid any issues with them not having an invitation.I don’t think most will even come due to the distance of my reception venue, it ends up being more of a courtesy invite.
Now my issue is do I have to feed the evening people again? The running order is that we have the church ceremony around 1pm, at around 2.30 they start serving refreshment (W.indian roti skins with fillings) and drinks post church in the courtyard. Kind of like a cocktail hour.
After that there’ll be photos etc, then onto the reception venue. There will be a 3 course meal served to the day guests and then we’ll start the disco at approximately 7-11.30. Now I wasn’t plannning to serve any extra food, as I feel the day guests would have had enough to eat. Also the venue’s idea of bacon sandwiches served to the guests isn’t really a great option anyway. Also everything must be provided by the hotel, no outside food/drink etc.
I have made my reservations clear to my sister, she doesn’t think it will be a issue, as they will have ample time to eat at home before coming down. I am looking for some more persepctive from you guys really before making my decision.
Post # 3
Yes you must provide food to evening guests.
Even if someone stops by your house polite hosting requires you offer them a snack and refreshment. You are inviting them to spend their time celebrating you. The least you can offer them is a snack.
Post # 4
I agree. You have to provide something for them. It doesn’t have to be another three course meal, but maybe snack stations? Or finger sandwiches? How about fruit and cheese? cupcakes? (Not always a low cost thing, but it might be if you can shop around) I agree with andilovesj, the probably won’t expect a huge meal, but a snack would be very nice.
Post # 5
“The least you can offer them is a snack.”
Post # 6
I agree with PP that there needs to be atleast snacks simply because it is a polite thing to do. Also if the disco part includes any alcohol it is always a good idea to have some light finger foods to keep guests…uhm level headed 😉
Post # 7
Thank you guys for the perspective. I was very much letting the fact that I didn’t want to invite them cloud my judgement.To clarify, the reason I am inviting them is my mum went ape when she realised her family weren’t invited (neither were my dad’s to be honest).Then reminded me of the massive arguments after there was a mixup at my sister’s wedding 13 years ago. Still a touchy subject, lol
I am inviting them simply because I have to. I doubt that out of the 20 extra guests that more than 5-7 will turn up.
If it was a case of us being able to provide food it would be a no brainer. Our costs would be minimal. The venue accepts no external food/drink at all, and has set out their option, so we have to pay what they ask. So inviting 15-20 extra guests to appease family I don’t even see ends up costing us £750-800/$1177-1255 extra because we have to cater for ALL the guests.
Post # 8
Ps…Very true, I was hoping that having the Caribbean food will line their stomach’s in preparation for the evening festivities! lol