Post # 1
We won’t have any older children at our wedding (none of our friends have them yet) but we might have a couple of toddlers because they are family and their parents are traveling to come. I’m not sure if this is the case, but I figure that I should talk to our caterer about options for feeding them. We’re having a plated, formal dinner.
Did any of you have this situation? What did you do? Same food? Different food?
Post # 2
Does your venue provide separate meals for kids? Ours had an option of standard kid’s food to pick from, like spaghetti, chicken fingers, etc.
Post # 3
We are not doing anything different for kids. However ours is a buffet. It will be easier for the kids to pick what they want.
Post # 4
We just asked our venue what kind of kids meals they had and they said it wouldn’t even be an issue, and that they could order pretty much any kid food they wanted and they’d just whip it up. Kids meals cost less too so just ask your venue what’s available!
Post # 5
We also had a plated, formal dinner and had a separate meal for the kids but for the entree only. Starters, dessert..etc were the same as the adult meals.
Post # 6
Our venue offered a cheaper meal for kids, $35 a pop and they had options like grilled cheese, pasta, chicken fingers… the venue should have some kind of option for you, just ask!
Post # 7
I say that kids eat the same as adults. Just smaller and maybe less spicy (depending on what you serve). In my experience the food in weddings are often quite basic (in a good way. I mean no veal brains and other weird.food) that are suitable for everyone
Post # 8
if it’s only a couple of toddlers maybe ask the parents if the kids are picky or not. I would also include vegetables like you do for the adults. As a mom I’d probably share my meal with my kid if they were only served traditional “kid” food and nothing healthy.
Post # 9
when you say toddlers do you mean on the older or younger side? Toddlers actually run from 12-36 months, and there is a big difference in what a 12 month old eats and what a 3 year old eats. If they are only around the age of 1, I would not even worry about providing a plate for them because, even though they may be eating table food at that time, the parents can just feed them from their plate or provide them with their own food, if not eating table foods.
If they are 2-3 with more teeth, I would ask for kids options.
Children can also be picky (and parents these days have a tendency to play into that), my 3 year old nephew basically only eats chicken nuggets and spaghetti.
Post # 10
We’re most liklely having buffet style and passed apps, so we’ll just ensure that enough of the options are kid-friendly (as well as ensuring we have vegetarian, vegan, and gluten-free options).
I’m not a believer in separate children’s meals (ie, the ubiquitous chicken nuggets plate) and would like to avoid it as an option at all costs. Most of the kids who would be invited are used to eating “adult food” (for lack of a better phrase!), so I’m not too worired about a picky eater who will only eat chicken nuggets or mac-n-cheese. If we were doing a sit-down meal, ideally I’d like to offer smaller portions for the very young ones.
Post # 11
Good point. The oldest would be two, the rest would range between 12-18 months. I think I’ll probably just ask the caterer what the options are, and then check with parents who RSVP with their kids about what the children would prefer to eat.
Two groomsmen will also have new babies, but I bet that the one who is traveling cross-country will leave his wife and 3-month-old baby at home. I would totally understand if he dropped out, but he insists he still wants to come.
Post # 12
so, we had a kid free wedding, but DH’s cousin (26 at the time) is a super picky eater. we asked our caterer if we could do a kids meal for him. it was not a problem.
so if you have kids at the reception, i would find out the price and options for the kids meal.
ETA: when DS was 12 months, we were still sharing off our plates, but now, we have to get him his own meal or make sure our portions are big enough to share. DS is now 17m.
Post # 13
The little kids had chicken tenders and french fries, the older kids were offered the same meal options as the adults.
Post # 14
Our caterer doesn’t charge for under 5s, and is half-price for 5-10 year olds. Older kids get a full size adult meal. They have also offered to do a simpler kids option, if we want it.
When my brother married the venue didn’t do children’s options, they all had the same meal as the adults and most just picked at it, which was a shame. Especially as the bride’s two daughters had been hoping for something a bit more exciting – it was melon and parma ham to start, steak with potato rosti and green beans for the main and sticky toffee pudding and ice cream for the sweet. The venue graciously didn’t charge for my brother’s best friend’s little boy – 18 months old but very unwell, so the size (and apetite) of a 9 month old – they just gave him some veg and fruit on the house. Aside from that, they wouldn’t budge.
You need to speak to your caterer, hopefully they’ll be reasonable and provide a smaller, cheaper meal for the small kids.
Post # 15
Definitely ask the parents what they want for the kids and maybe your caterer can provide. Some two year olds eat like pros, but in my experience, most would be happy with a pile of chopped cucumbers, some noodles with butter, and mabe some grilled chicken. Perhaps a banana or yogurt for desert. I don’t even think most under-two’s have been exposed to chicken fingers and french fries yet.
My son had a food aversion for longer than normal, so this might be a bit of an exception, but when we went to a wedding when he was that age, I packed what I thought he would eat in my purse. I don’t think caterers consider “bringing in outside food” in case that is a concern for you.