- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I need the help of the Catholic bees! Here’s some backstory…
About 10 years ago my family started going to the Tridium and that’s when I first heard the Litany of the Saints. I remember standing there with goosebumps and eyes watering and I thought “this HAS to be played at my wedding!” Everytime after that when I was at the Easter Vigil Mass and heard the Litany I imagined my wedding day and the song playing asking the saints to come down and pray for me and my husband to be. Then I met my wonderful fiance and when we got engaged 2 years ago (April 10) I thought “woohoo!! Litany of the Saints!” On April 11 I emailed our pastor who will be marrying us and asked if we could have the Litany sung right before our vows. He said yes and thought it was a great idea. (woohoo!)
Fast forward to our first meeting with our priest. I asked again if we could have the Litany and again he said yes and suggested it that it be played as Fiance and I walk down the aisle (he’s walking down right before me). I said we would talk about it and let him know. The 3rd time we met with him I said we would like it to be sung between the homily and our vows. He said he did some “research” and said we couldn’t have it sung during the mass, but we could have it as a prelude song. He compared it to an ordination and said when its sung then, the soon to be priest is laying prostrate and we wouldn’t do that at our wedding. I left it at that because I didn’t want to make an argument without doing some research too.
My mom and I have been talking about it and reading online and I can’t find anything saying you CAN’T have the Litany sung during the Mass. I found one website that said you can’t have it sung to replace the Prayer of the Faithful, which we wouldn’t.
My mom suggested that I email our priest and ask about why the Litany can’t be sung before our vows. It’s sung at ordination and right before Baptism at the Easter Vigil, and I’ve also heard that it can be sung at Confirmation. So why can’t it be sung before our vows?
I’m going to write out a draft email before I send it, I want to make sure it’s carefully worded, but I wanted to see what other Catholic brides thought. Is there something that I’m missing on why it can’t be sung? Perhaps some ideas on what to put in the email? Any help would be appreciated!!