Post # 1
My Fiance and I are getting married in a Catholic church in our hometown in Illinois (Diocese of Peoria) but are living in Virginia (Diocese of Arlington). We have all of our paperwork filled out in Illinois, but our priest there said he needs to process the paperwork through Arlington in order to approve the marriage. The thing is we’re not actually registered at a church in Virginia! We’ve been attending mass at a church in Alexandria but we live outside its parish boundaries…the church in Illinois said it shouldn’t really be a problem, but I don’t understand how or why Arlington would process and approve our paperwork if there’s no membership anywhere in the diocese!!!
Anybody else get married in a different Diocese than where they lived at the time?? And was anybody not actually registered? I’m trying to figure out if I should just register at the church whos bounds we live in to make things go smore smoothly…
Post # 3
We are getting married in the Joliet, IL diocese but we live in the Chicago diocese. We moved around a bit and didn’t have a “regular” church in Chicago, but I just registered at the one down the street from us right after we got engaged so I would have an official church. I just emailed them and asked for a letter of approval or what not and told them I am getting married in the Joliet diocese and the name of my church and they sent the letter to the priest at my hometown church. It was a bit of a hassle, but not too much work.
Post # 4
I’ve not been in this situation exactly, but you should trust your priest/whoever is helping you with the paperwork. They do it everyday! If they say it shouldn’t be a problem, believe them!
Post # 5
I’m not in your situation (civil wedding), but I go to St. Charles Borromeo in Clarendon, and it is a fantastic church!
Post # 6
@Mrs.DBee: I know, I know you’re probably right…I just kept thinking that I definitely wouldn’t be approving a marriage for a couple that wasn’t registered in my diocese 🙁
@abbie017: We’ve been sticking mostly to Alexandria since that’s where we live, but we might just have to check it out!
Post # 7
We had a similar situation–got married in one diocese, did our marriage prep through the diocese where my husband lived at the time, and I was living in another diocese altogether. If a woman gets married in a parish other than the one that she is registered at, she is (usually) required to obtain a permission letter from the priest at her home parish. I hadn’t previously registered at my parish, since I was just a grad student living in that city for a few years, but I did so that I could get a permission letter. You’ll want to register at the parish where you are attending; even though you don’t technically live in its boundaries, most churches are understanding that people like to attend at a church that fits their style (my husband and I literally drive by 2 other Catholic churches to get to the parish we attend!). I would just talk to the priest at your church after mass, and explain the situation. Good luck!