Post # 1
i had a question. me and my fiancee are getting married in a methodist church. however he is catholic and his dad wants us to at least get the marriage "blessed" in a catholic church afterwards. i read somewhere that this only takes 10 minutes usually, but what im wondering is if anyone can tell me what exactly takes place in the blessing of the marriage? do we have to say our vows again? or does he just say a prayer that "blesses" the marriage?? also our other option is to have the priest come to my church and co-officiate the wedding. now if he comes to my church do we still follow all the ceremony components of a catholic wedding? or is the priest just present to "bless" the wedding and take turns officiating the ceremony the methodist church requires. thanks so much for anyone that has any information!!
Post # 3
I would call your fiance’s parish and ask them. There are very specific rules that are Catholic specific, BUT a lot of times different priests/parishes will want different things. Sorry I am not more help!
Post # 4
i agree with haselwand, call his church & ask. is there a specific priest you’d ask, you could contact him as well. i think if you brought the catholic priest to the methodist church the ceremony would be more "methodist" than "catholic".
Post # 5
I have never heard of anything Catholic taking only 10 minutes. Call the church.
Post # 6
The Catholic marriage ceremony does only take about 10 minutes. If you hold your wedding in a Catholic church there is generally a mass, which takes the remainder of the hour. However, in order to have the Catholic marriage ceremony (which is what is required for the church to "bless" your marriage) you and your fiance will need to go through Catholic marital counseling. This generally requires meeting with the priest a few times for two to three hours at a time. A Catholic priest cannot perform a church-sanctioned marriage ceremony outside a Catholic church without the explicit permission of the bishop, so having him co-officiate is probably not an option. You would in fact have to say your vows again, although they would not be "your" vows – the Catholic vows are a prescribed part of the ceremony and are not rewritten (as other churches allow) to suit the bride and groom.
You and your FI should definately call the offices of your local Catholic church and arrange to meet with a priest. If you want more information, there was an (extensive) post about the essential impossibility of having a Catholic ceremony anywhere but in a Catholic church a few weeks ago. I would warn you (as someone who was raised Catholic but WILL NOT have a Catholic wedding) that you should look carefully at the vows before you decide what to do, and make sure that you feel comfortable with the agreement you are making.
Post # 7
We did it with my husband’s family priest. It took less than 10 minutes, and we just needed to repeat the vows, a quick prayer, etc, and done. But call your parish and work it out with them first.
Post # 8
thanks everyone for the advice!! that helped a lot 🙂 we’ll talk to his parish and see what we need to do. thanks again!!