Post # 1
We met with our priest this morning and he was explaining how the ceremony works. He said we do the processional and I meet my Fiance at the altar. After that, we both separate and I sit with my bridesmaids in the first pew and Fiance sits with the groomsmen on the other side until the wedding vows. Then after the vows we stand/kneel before the altar for the rest of the ceremony. Has anyone else seen it done this way? I have never seen the bride and groom sit separately at their own wedding ceremony. He said it reflected how two people come together during the vows. I found it a little strange but also didn’t want to question the priest if that’s how he does his ceremonies. Has anyone else ever heard of this?
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Post # 2
Is this a Catholic ceremony? Even at those, I’ve never seen the bride and groom sit completely separately, although I have seen a lot of the bride and groom sitting together off to one side for much of the ceremony. But no, I’ve never seen them have to go sit down with their halves of the bridal party.
Post # 3
Yeah, I’m catholic and Ive never seen the bride and groom sit during the ceremony. is this priest legit?
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
We did not have a catholic ceremony, but I’ll tell you that you could not have parted me from my groom with a crowbar after meeting him at the altar.
I would tell your priest that you will be sitting together, and if he doesn’t like it, he can shove it.
Post # 5
I have only seen the bride and groom sit together to the side of the altar. I suppose they do this in church weddings rather than standing the whole time because the ceremony goes longer than civil ceremonies. I think it’s weird for him to make you sit in the pews where all the guests are sitting though – you should be together and facing the guests, not separate from each other in your own ceremony.
Post # 6
I’ve never seen the bride and groom sit during the ceremony at all, separate OR together. They always always walk in (groom from side, bride down the aisle), stand for ceremony, then walk out (together). I’ve seen a few where the wedding party sit down up at the alter, but never bride & groom.
Post # 7
Yes, he is a legit priest! We are getting married in a different church than our own and I just have never heard of this before.
Post # 8
Thank you!! That is how I feel but I wasn’t sure if maybe I was just overreacting here. I went ahead and e-mailed saying we would like to sit together.
Post # 9
No we definitely didn’t do this. We had two chairs on the altar where we sat together during the readings.
Post # 10
i’m catholic and i have heard of this, but have never seen it done. we had the option of doing it for our ceremony, but we chose not to. since i’m not familiar with it, i wasn’t sure if i’d be happy with it in the end, so we just stuck with what we knew. i don’t think there’s anything wrong with doing that way tho. my church coordinator said it adds a really nice touch to the ceremony, so i think it would be cool to see one day.
and i hope you were nice when you explained to your officiant that you’d rather sit together and didn’t tell him to shove it.
Post # 11
Oh yes I was very nice haha. Part of my worry was even saying anything at all because I didn’t want to question the way the priest did it! I just sent him an e-mail saying we were discussing it and we would really prefer to sit together if possible. I haven’t heard back yet but I am hoping he will say that’s okay!