(Closed) Catholic ceremony outside of church

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Yeah…. La Iglesia tiene unas exigencias extranas! i’ve heard that and also que no puedes tener tus propios vows. Why???

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I agree with you that if God is everywhere it shouldn’t matter whether you are married in a church or not. However, that said, you cannot have a Catholic ceremony outside of the Catholic Church. Marriage is a sacrament in the Catholic Church, and by Cannon Law, all sacraments are performed in the Church.

The Church simply will not perform marriage ceremonies outside of the Church, so if you want a Catholic ceremony performed by a Catholic priest, you will have to have your ceremony in a Catholic Church.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Well as a Catholic, the way I see it is, while God might be everyewhere, a church is His house.  And for Catholics their important mile markers (sacraments) happen in a church.  Sure there might be something like annointing of the sick or confession, that might happen outside of the church, (ie. hospital).  But the first receiving of the these sacraments, (and largely the continuation of the “ongoing” sacraments confession/communion) are done in the Church.

God certainly created what we see around us, and in this world.  But everything has its place and purpose.  (Ie. not everything God made can be food for us, or shelter, etc.) 

While I personally can’t begrudge a bride wanting a beautiful outdoor wedding, I understand and appreciate the rules here.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i know my church hasa beautiful outdoor garden space that they take pictures in etc right outside the church… if you could find a church with something like that it might be an option 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You can get married outside of the Church, if you can find a Catholic Church that has constructed a permanent altar outside. Otherwise, you must get married inside for the ceremony to be recognized by the church. Those are VERY scarce, there is one in Southern Maryland, both the church and the marble altar were constructed in the late 1700s. It’s the only one that I know of.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@marylandnurse: I know of a few others outside, including some constructed in the last 50 years.  You just have to look around.

 

It’s worth noting that you can get married outside a church if you request and obtain a “Dispensation from Canonical Form” from the presiding priest/deacon (he has to obtain it from the bishop).  To get that dispensation, you need a good reason to have it outdoors (“the garden is pretty” isn’t a good reason). 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@CoffeeHound:True. I went to a Catholic wedding outside once when I was little. The bride got married at the house she grew up in, so I guess that was the “good reason?” I don’t know if there was another one. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@jedeve: Yeah the “good reason” isn’t well defined.  It just has to be good enough that your bishop agrees.

I made that point so people think through a reason before walking into the priest’s office.  Things I usually hear are:  Catholic/non-Catholic and the non-Catholic’s family member is a reverend, Catholic/Jewish wedding which is typically allowed to be held in a Jewish ceremony (which can be outside), lack of church building of sufficient size available for the wedding, or when someone wants to use a rosary garden.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@CoffeeHound:  Were those reasons successful in obtaining the dispensation?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Does your city have a chapter of the White Robed Monks of St. Benedict? They will do a nuptial mass for you ANYWHERE but they are “Independant Catholic” so the “Roman Catholic” Church won’t acknowledge your marriage unless you do a convalidation.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You can always get married outside by a justice of the peace and have your marriage blessed in the church at a later date.  Best of both worlds?

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