(Closed) Catholic ceremony wedding invitation question

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
13249 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think “and” or “with” sounds better (gramatically speaking, you don’t “unite .. to” you “unite .. with”).  But if you’re really set on it, I doubt anyone would really notice unless they’re really into grammar.

Post # 4
1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@daintyhands:  Our invite originally said “and” but then realized it read as though myself and my fiance are my parents “daughter”- the and is inclusive, whereas the “to” shows that you’re the daughter and he’s who you’re marrying.(Does that makes sense?)

Our invites are far from traditional- word them however you want.

Post # 5
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here (came with my career)

According to Peggy Post’s Book “Wedding Etiquette”, I believe you are perfectly OK with using TO between the Bride’s & Groom’s Names in a formal capacity…

(Although, as abbie017:  has pointed out the gramatically correct version would be “united with”)

But I think what you really wanted to know was this…

Is there any way to reword the bottom so that I can keep my original design  “Jennifer Ann to Mr. Nick Allen Ames”? I would like to at least keep the word  “Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.”

And that Question quite honestly has me stumped…

As I am not clear here on what you want to achieve.

The above example is a formal invitation… and that is the format that is traditionally used, and how things are written out in regards to Date, Time, Location.

So without knowing your specifics it is difficult to comment / help you further.

If you don’t feel comfortable sharing the details here (and I wouldn’t)… you can always PM them to me, and I can help you with the wording for your specific situation.

Hope this helps,

Post # 7
8091 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@daintyhands:  I don’t understand why you don’t want to use the correct word. It sounds like the invitations haven’t been sent to the printer yet, so why not fix it? The comment about “and” making it sound like the bride and groom are both daughters is incorrect — it would only read that way if it said “uniting their daughters Jennifer and Nick”. With it being singular, there is no ambiguity whatsoever. Also, “to” would be acceptable if the wording was “celebrating the marriage of Jennifer to Nick” or something like that. But you don’t unite something to something. You unite something and something, or something with something. They are your invitations and you can word them however you want. Really, nobody will probably even notice. But since you asked, I’ll answer. Smile

Post # 8
8091 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@daintyhands:  Take away the formal fluff and just read it as a sentance. Which sounds better:

Come to a mass uniting Jennifer and Nick in the sacrament of Holy Matrimony.


Come to a mass uniting Jennifer to Nick in the sacrament of Holy Matrimony.


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