Post # 1
My soon to be fiance and i are in a bit of a pickle- im a US citizen and he is an overseas national- we just got the paperwork for a fiance visa, according to which we have to get married in the US so that he can get a spousal visa! is it possible to have a civil service (in the US) then have a church wedding later? Its just that I have my heart set on having a wedding in my childhood catholic church overseas (my partner is an atheist and doesnt really mind) with his family and friends etc present…is this possible? im gonna ask my priest here eventually- i just want some opinions first or maybe someone with a similar experience?
Post # 3
Your civil wedding doesn’t have to be the church wedding. They can be separate events. In Europe, it’s actually commonly done that way anyway.
Post # 4
I know someone who did that just recently. The groom was from Mexico. They applied for a fiance visa for him and then had 90 days to get married before the visa expired. They had a quick marriage in a court house with their family as witnesses, and then invited some friends to a small formal dinner afterward. This was last year; their Catholic church wedding was just last month. She still used her maiden name on the invitations and such.
The bride said she used this website and its forums to help her:
Post # 5
I know from reading the comments of other Bees that priests generally do not like to have the wedding mass not be the legal marriage, but it seems like this is the kind of situation where it would be acceptable. Talk to your priest.
Post # 6
I’m not Catholic, but we have similar marriage requirements to Catholics in the Orthodox church. In South Korea where we live, we are not allowed to get married in the church without the legal wedding done first (in Korea the ceremony and legal paperwork are always separate). We got legally married in April because of my visa situation (I’m Canadian), and are getting married in the church tomorrow morning.
Post # 7
Definitely talk with the priest at the church you want to get married in and let him know all the details. I think (think!) that instead of a marriage ceremony you’ll technically have a rite of convalidation, but it’s the church saying ok, now you’re married here too. I don’t think this is too uncommon and I’m sure they’ll be fine with helping you through this process! After all, their goal is to keep people marrying in the Church.
Post # 8
Yeah a friend of mine did this. She got married in Peru where her Fiance was from, then had a Catholic wedding in the U.S. In Peru, it’s common to have a civil service and then a church wedding.