(Closed) Catholic Church Pre-marital questions

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We were essentially asked if we were going into marriage of our own accord, and if we were able to give consent. There were questions about being forced into it or whether or not there is serious mental illness. The priest ran through them quickly and was practically checking off the “right” answer even before I had replied. It’s honestly no big deal.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@MidwestBride2012:  These questions, plus our priest asked if we planned on raising future children as Catholics.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Really the only things, besides what was mentioned above, was go over our foccus test results and discuss the areas in which our answers differed.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We were asked those questions plus..

– what do you like best about your fI, what don’t you like?

-what does he like about you? what do you think he doesn’t like

-why are you getting married in the catholic church

– are there any things that you want to discuss but are nervous about asking him

Post # 10
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591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.

When we met right before the wedding, but really it was just to talk about logistics of the day and how we were feeling and, since we had just gotten into town and missed regularly scheduled confession, he confessed us speparately… That was about it.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We were asked the exact same questions as the above PPs. It was really no big deal. The word investigation sounds so bad, its just a few questions – try not to worry 🙂 This might just be the official meeting where he actually checks them off the list and has you say it under oath 🙂

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@FutureMrs86: it is a multiplie choice test with about 500 questions that talk about different topics and if you have discussed them with your partner:

MATCH: Life Style Expectations, Friends and Interests, Personality Match, Personal Issues 

SKILLS: Communication, Problem Solving 

BONDERS: Religion and Values, Parenting, Extended Family, Sexuality, Finances, Marriage Readiness, Marriage Covenant 

SUMMARY CATEGORIES (combining category-specific items with relevant items from the rest of the inventory): Key Problem Indicators, Family of Origin, Dual Career 

SPECIAL GROUPS: Interfaith Marriages, Remarriages, Cohabiting Couples

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Example questions from the website…

Agree, Disagree or Uncertain

When finished, couples are encouraged to discuss with each other the thoughts, feelings, differences, and priorities that each FOCCUS© Pre-Marriage Inventory item brought to mind.

Inventory ItemA = AgreeD = DisagreeU = Uncertain

1)

We are in agreement about the husband and wife roles each of us expects of the other in our marriage relationship.

A

D

U

2)

There are qualities about my future spouse that I do not respect.

A

D

U

3)

We have discussed the ways our families solved problems and how this may affect our problem solving.

A

D

U

4)

We disagree with each other over some teachings of the church.

A

D

U

5)

My future spouse and I have agreed we will not have children.

A

D

U

6)

I am concerned that in-laws may interfere in our marriage relationship.

A

D

U

7)

My future spouse and I can talk about our sexual fears, hopes and preferences.

A

D

U

8)

We are in agreement about how we will make financial decisions between us.

A

D

U

9)

I sometimes feel that this may not be the right person for me to marry.

A

D

U

10)

My future spouse and I agree that our marriage commitment means we intend to pledge love under all circumstances.

A

D

U

 
 It really asks the same questions repeatedly using different words! They try to trick you haha

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

It’s really just to make sure you can get married: every body part works, you’re not related, you’re open to children, you’re not being forced to marriage, you are doing this for the right reasons and you have an understanding for the duties of a sacramental marriage.

I was nervous too. It was fine!

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