Post # 1
We are very interested in getting married in a Catholic church. My groom is baptized, I am not. I consider myself born and raised Catholic, I was just never baptized due to parents getting divorced and what not.
I know some churches will allow you to get married as long as one person is baptized, but are their any other rules/regulations before you are allowed to get married?
What are the pre marriage counseling sessions like with the priest?
Thanks for your input!
Post # 3
It is possible at every Catholic Church to get married with one party not being baptized! 🙂 As long as the baptized person is a member of the Catholic Church. You have to get special permission from the bishop. It’s not hard to get. Basically paperwork you have to fill out, I’ve never heard of anyone being turned down, ever. In that situation most churches prefer it be a wedding ceremony outside Mass – in other words there will be no Holy Communion, just the Liturgy of the Word (scripture readings) and the exchange of vows and rings. It’s very beautiful.
If you are interested in getting baptized, most Catholic churches run a group program called RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults) that you can go through before your wedding. It usually lasts from fall until spring and then you get baptized at Easter along with all the other converts. It would be helpful if you want do other things within the Church, like have a Catholic funeral etc. although hopefully you won’t be needing THAT anytime soon. If you are baptized your marriage will be a sacrament and you can also have the option of the full wedding Mass, although those are pretty long (1 hr+)
You definitely don’t have to do it to have a Catholic wedding though!!!
The sessions with the priest or deacon can be fun, be prepared to answer questions about what role God plays in your life etc. It is very low-pressure. They’ll help you plan your ceremony, what readings and so forth. They’ll also probably have you do a pre-Cana day which is a day-long retreat type thing run by other married couples. It can be boring or it can be fun, it depends what you put into it and if you enjoy working on your relationship.
there is a Catholic section on the bee you can post in too!! 🙂
Post # 4
you should really check with the parish you want to get married in. i’ve found that it really depends on that. Some places make you do one thing and other are willing to work with you and others arent. so you should get your information right from the horses mouth on this one.
they will probably have you attend Pre Cana or RCIA is my guess because they take marriage very seriously, so they will want to make sure you know exactly what you are entering into.
but good luck and i hope you get all the information that you are looking for.
their is a member “catholic bee” who is very helpful! so maybe seek her out and PM her. just an idea.
Post # 5
I just got my convalidation. I really enjoyed it but we were required to prove our baptism, first euchrist, and confirmation. It is my understanding at least one of you have to have all of those done. We both had all of them and it was difficult to get current proof from the original churches. Good luck