(Closed) Catholic Churches in NYC?

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

just go to the church he attends and talk to the priest about it. They are very accomodating but will not schedule/set a date until you talk to a priest at the church. Once you do that you can go between different diocese to get the different parts of the marraige prep done.  My Fiance and I are down in fl and I’m getting married up in VA it’s a lot of paperwork but literally I called them up 6-7mos prior to the date I wanted to get married (short engagement).

We’re doing our pre-cana weekend/conference in a different diocese than he is located, doing foccus at his church in FL, and everything else through my church up in VA.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@bethiej83:  Don’t stress! You’ve got plenty of time, I promise. Fiance and I are also getting married in a Catholic Church in NYC. He’s protestant, I’m Catholic. Were you baptized Christian or not baptized at all? If you were baptized Christian you shouldn’t have any problem at all, they will ask your Fiance to promise to expose any future children to the Catholic faith but that’s about it. If you’re not baptized you’ll have to ask for special dispensation from the Church, but my understanding is that this process is not overly difficult either. Definitely talk to a priest in the church where you’re planning on getting married. Fiance will have to register at that church and become an official parishioner, but that shouldn’t be an issue.

As far as the Catholic pre-cana, we’re doing ours where we live so not in the same church as the wedding actually at the suggestion of the priest who will be marrying us, so that can probably be done in IL when you guys move.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

The reason why she did that is because (little-known fact here, even among Catholics) a parish is actually a geographic division, so whatever parish you (or, in this case, FI) live(s) in is the place you should start.

There are two ways of being a “member” of a parish: find one you like, start attending Mass there regularly and formally register as a member (i.e. sign up, what most couples do if they need to establish membership in a parish to have their wedding there), –or– figure out what parish’s territory you live in. Not many people know this, but a Catholic is “automatically” a member of the parish wherever they live, and they have a right to receive their sacraments there. (You may not be delighted with the parish, the priest, etc., but that’s another matter – you at least have a parish that has to recognize you/FI as a member for the purposes of getting the ball rolling on your marriage prep.)

You may need to do some juggling when you move, of course – Fiance will probably need to find a parish in your new city, and there’s a little extra bureaucratic complexity whenever Catholics get married in a parish other than their own. Also, if you are unbaptized, there is some extra paperwork you’ll have to do with the diocese (and you’ll need to check on whether that’s the diocese in NY or the new one where you’re moving). That won’t be too big a deal, though.

One final thing it would be good for you to know right off the bat, too: most of the time Catholics have the option of having a full wedding with Mass (meaning a wedding that includes Communion, takes about an hour or a little more), or a wedding without Mass (so, no Communion, and it will last around 45 min.) When a Catholic marries an unbaptized person, it’s automatically going to be a wedding without Mass. Your Fiance might need to break that news to some of his relatives, etc., so it’d just be good to make sure he knows.

Also, since he’s the Catholic half of the couple, things might go a little more smoothly if he is the one to make the calls, talk to the parish secretaries, etc. He will need to make arrangements to get a copy of his Baptismal certificate, etc., at some point, and I’m sure he is much more likely than you are to know the details of where and when he got baptized, confirmed, etc.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@bethiej83:  So you can definitely get dispensation from the priest/bishop to marry in a Catholic church even if you’re not Christian at all. That shouldn’t be too big of a deal; http://catholicweddinghelp.com/questions/unbaptized.htm

I would recommend our church but the parish priest is kind of old school and not all that welcoming (we’re actually having a family friend marry us, not the parish priest). I’ll definitely ask around though. Also as PP said, have your Fiance call the church.  As a practicing Catholic he’ll immediately encounter fewer issues than you would otherwise. Also have him register with his home parish, it’s a really fast and easy process. Good luck!!

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