(Closed) Catholic Gap

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

depends on the church i think, to get married in my chruch i could have chose 1pm or 3pm. to get married in the chapel i would have had to pick 11am or 2pm – i got married at 3 and the cocktail hour started at 5. so i really only had an hour gap, but my venue was also kind enough to have the bar set up early in case people showed up.

 i guess it also depends on what kind of reception you wanted, most people go for dinners with dancing and drinks at night, so to accomidate you have to have that gap – but if you wanted your reception right after your wedding then no one is going to stop you ya know? you dont have to have the gap, it just usually works out that way.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

found this from catholic digest:

Most, if not all churches have saturday evening mass that starts with confessions around mid afternoon and ends after the last mass in the evening. When a wedding is scheduled for a Saturday, it must be taken into consideration that the ceremony will often begin late and will continue beyond the conclusion through the time it takes the photographer to finish the portrait shots. If a wedding is scheduled to begin later in the afternoon, it could easily overlap the time slots allotted for the run-up to the Saturday Vigil. If the priest is the only priest in the parish, which is often the case, the difficulty is compounded. So you understand why a Saturday wedding has to start earlier. You might consider having a Friday evening wedding. Lots of people do and you can light the church with candles and it’s lovely.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

^ That is the answer.  Weddings usually have to straddle the 5 or 5:30 Mass (and the hour or so before hand for confession / setup of the church).  That’s why you’ll see time slots at 3pm then again at 7pm in many parishes.

Sometimes you can find 5pm time slots if you consider a church that does not have a Saturday evening Mass, for example a chapel or a monestary. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I ran into the gap problem when planning my wedding. Since I really wanted a ceremony around 4:30pm, I decided to have my ceremony at a college chapel (Catholic) instead of a big church. The chapel does not have a Saturday mass and is free all day. It is a really nice chapel and seats 225 people–and I get to have an evening reception. Just an idea for those in the same situation!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club

This is one reason why a Friday evening wedding is nice; you can have the mass at 5pm! 🙂 Our Church only has an AM mass on Fridays, so we got to choose whenever we wanted the mass to start.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

@candy apple: The problem is that your guests might not be so happy about a 5pm Friday wedding. You’d probably have a lot of people skip the ceremony and go to the reception.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It will really depend on your church’s normal Mass schedule. We are having our ceremony at 4pm since our church does not have a Saturday evening Mass.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

my ceremony is at 2:30 by the time people get to the reception hall itll be 3:15 3:30… 1 hour cocktail hour… then well get there and an early dinner at 5 🙂 no gap for us!!!! 🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

yes, at my church we were only allowed to marry at 2 pm.  There are often funerals in the morning and church masses at 4pm so they want all weddings done in the time in between.  At my church they were very strict on the time.  There could be no evidence of our wedding starting at 3:15pm.  People start arriving for mass at that time and they didn’t want our wedding to still be there or any wedding decor up still.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@amariem25: Wow that’s quite a strict timeline they gave you! We don’t have to worry about people showing up for Mass afterward, but they did say we had to be out by 6pm. And we are only allowed to take photos inside the church for 15 minutes after the ceremony. I was under the impression nuptial Masses were longer than an hour, I guess your church breezes through it like nobody’s business? I can’t imagine a Mass starting at 2 and being cleaned up by 3:15!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@lida – our mass was about 50 minutes long.  And we didn’t have any decorations so we just had to walk out (no cleanup).  We also did all our formal photos before the mass.  We didn’t do a receiving line either!  We just walked out of the church with everyone standing outside waving ribbon wands at us.

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