Post # 1
Fi and I need to take a marriage preparation course through our church in a few weeks and rwas wondering if anyone has ever been through something like that? We already met with out priest and he split us up and asked us some questions so the next step is this course which is a 2 day thing. I just want to prepared and what should we expect? Any help would be great! Thanks!
Post # 3
At ours we heard from married couples talking about how their faith is involved in their marriage and such, they talked about money, birth control and sex. We broke up into smaller groups to answer questions about like what’s important to you in a relationship, and we talked forever about bachelor parties because someone brought it up. We also did a couple “work sheets”.
They don’t preach or judge, or like make you answer anything personal. If your’s is a two day thing you’ll probably have time to do some pretty cool exercises.
Post # 4
We are actually going to our Pre Cana class this Sat on the 10th. I’ll be writing a post about our experience so I will be sure to discuss the topics we touched on and the overall experience in detail. Ours is a one day class from 9:00 – 4:30 (I believe) so it sounds like it will be pretty intense, but from what I hear, it is really enjoyable and couples get a lot out of it. I’m actually really looking forward to it and think it will be a great, positive experience. My understanding is that any couple getting married in the Catholic church has to take the class so you aren’t alone! You can speak up as much or as little as you’d like, but since it is required, I say make the most of it and you’ll probably be pleasantly surprised!
Post # 5
I babysat for a couple while they were teaching a two day class which I think is like yours. Like a PP said, they just teach you stuff and talk about their marriages. It’s not a big deal.
Post # 6
We had to go to a 3-session NFP class (which I don’t think is what you’re asking about,) but then we also had to go to a 2-session class on communication. It was pretty good, and I think I really learned a lot about listening and understanding others, things that can even be used outside of marriage.
Post # 7
We did Engaged Encounter, which was an overnight weekend course at a retreat. We had to share a room with someone else (of the same sex). We had two couples lead the course; one was older, and the other couple was newlywed. The course was broken up into different topics. Each couple would share an experience relevant to the topic, then then boys and girls were split up to write. After about 10-15 minutes, one group was sent to meet their partner, read eachothers text and discuss. That was pretty much the format for Friday and Saturday. Sunday we had a small mass where the priest explained the mass as he went along. Then we did some more writing and sharing and a group activity.
I am not used to hearing my now husband spill his guts out and tell me how he really feels. So for me, it was a cry-fest, especially at the end when we wrote bethrothal letters to eachother. I couldn’t even write my letter without bawling! So my suggestion would be to wear waterproof mascara!
You won’t be asked to share anything with the group if you don’t want to. I was really nervous about the weekend because I thought it wass going to be like group therapy. It is one on one with your partner, and you can put as much or as little effort into it. Of course it is in your best interest to be honest with eachother and lay down a solid fountation for your marriage.
There was one couple at our retreat that realized they weren’t ready for marriage. This became really awkward at the end because you could see how upset they were.
Post # 8
All it was was a bunch of videos and they sent us into a room together to answer questions and discuss. It was all things that we had already discussed and it wasn’t bad at all.
We met from about 7pm-9:30pm and then again from 10am-3pm.
Post # 9
I guess they can be very different. We had four 2 hour sessions, in which they repeatedly told us that marriage is going to suck and that we “have to find joy in the suffering”. I kid you not. In the beginning of the first session, they had each of us stand up and tell the whole room what the best characteristic of our fiance(e) is. I thought that was very sweet until the deacon said: “Try to remember what you just said about the other person. Soon, you will feel very differently about them. It will be very hard to think of anything good about them once you have been married for a while.”
I spent most of the time pinching Darling Husband whenever the deacon looked our way, because Darling Husband slept through most of pre cana.