Post # 1
Help! I am about to call the Deacon of my church tomorrow but I’m kind of obsessing right now. I have had all of my sacraments in the same church I grew up in that I still attend. I am marrying my fiance who was never baptized. I understand the differences between a sacramental wedding and a natural marriage..but I’m scared that it is going to be an issue. My fiance really doesn’t see himself becoming catholic because he was never raised/taught anything regarding religion. Plus, we live together because of crazy family stuff that happened whereas we thought we would be much better off creating a stable life for each other. Does anyone have experience with something like this?
Post # 3
I was the parish secretary for many years. If you are marrying a non-Catholic you priest will most likely have both of you sign a contract (non-binding, obviously) that says that any children born from your union will be raised Catholic. Other things, like dealing with your different views, will come up during Pre-Cana counseling. Each priest/deacon is different, so he may or may not feel you living together is an “issue”. Just take a deep breath. The deacon isn’t there to judge you or nix your wedding… he’s there to help you prepare for it. Lots and LOTS of Catholics marry non-Catholics. Don’t sweat it.
Post # 4
@MexiPino: Thank you! I decided to bite the bullet and call him today. I told him about our backgrounds he said everything will be fine and that he will marry us. We made our first appointment to see him soon. I am so beyond happy right now!!
Post # 5
@katoshi14: Fantastic! Glad it’s going well! PM me if any other Catholic-y stuff you want to hash out comes up! My SO is a former Catholic/agnostic so I have some major empathy!
Post # 6
Glad to hear you and your fiance were treated with kindness and respect in our Church ;).
Post # 7
@katoshi14: Your marriage will be classified as a “natural marriage”. You will have to have a ceremony without a nuptual mass. You will sign a paper which says that you will do “everything in your power” to raise your children Catholic. Your Fiance will have to witness you sign it. You will also need a dispensation to marry a non-Catholic, but that’s just a procedural thing, really.
To be honest, there’s not that much difference in the procedure. Don’t worry about it. Totally not a big deal.
I’m a non-Catholic marrying a Catholic.