Post # 1
I’ve started thinking about DFI’s and I program for our August ceremony. I had initially created an 8 page program (2 full pages folded in half) that included every detail about the Mass, from when to sit, when to kneel, and all of the responses. I decided today that perhaps this isn’t necessary and it might be nice to just have 4 page program (1 full page folded in half) with the order of the ceremony (very brief, little detail), the readings written out, and the names of those in the wedding party and participants in the Mass (readers, altar server, etc.). I really like this simple version of the program, it looks a lot cleaner. We’re also having our ceremony in a college chapel, so I can’t even remember if there are kneelers to kneel on (so writing “kneel” for communion might not even make sense) and I probably won’t be able to figure this out until the day of the rehearsal which is way too late to get programs printed.
I’m guessing that the majority of guests aren’t practicing Catholics, and therefore will probably have no idea when to sit, kneel, stand, etc. But there are several people who will be attending that do go to Mass each week and could probably “lead the crowd”. What do you all think… keep it simple, or give a lot of detail so everyone can follow along?
Post # 3
The priest usually tells the congregation when to stand, when to sit, because they know not everyone in attendance is Catholic. Also, I think it’s pretty easy for people to know what to do since everyone else is doing it.
Post # 4
i would keep it simple. most everyone at our wedding was family but there were a few dozen non catholics in the crowd…they will figure it out, and i had my priest say things they will just watch and do what everyone else is doing.
you could also have your priest do it, like say “you may now be seated” or “please kneel” when the time comes….
Post # 5
I am catholic, but I have a lot of friends who go to catholic weddings and have no clue what to do.I’d make it as detailed as possible.
One of my friends was recently a bridesmaid and didn’t understand why she couldn’t take communion and that she was supposed to cross her arms for a blessing. The priest had to say something and it was awkward. Make sure your BMs and GMs are informed!
Post # 6
@PinkMagnolia:I’m not really worried about the wedding party, because we will go over that stuff at the rehearsal. 3/4 of my bridesmaids are Catholic, but I think only one of the groomsmen is… but I’m sure our Priest will bring this up.
To be honest, Communion is the least thing I’m worried about. I think it’s better for the Priest to say something about non-Catholics crossing their arms then writing it in a program, and for that reason my “detailed” program probably wouldn’t even say anything about Communion (besides when it’s taking place)… I don’t want to make people feel isolated, and I think by having the Priest say something about receiving a blessing vs. Communion sounds a lot nicer than writing it down. I’m more worried about people feeling awkward because they don’t know the responses, etc.
Thanks for all the input!
Post # 7
We did a detailed program because a lot of our guests weren’t Catholic.
Post # 8
I like your idea of a simple program, maybe just include the main things like peoples name, proclaimation of faith, and so forth