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I am Catholic, while the husband to be is Muslim. We have decided that neither of us are converting and will have an inter-faith ceremony. We have also discussed what we will do for our future children, so that has all been discussed and agreed upon. We are having the ceremony and reception at an Historic Hotel. I’m trying to find an Imam to perform a blessing and then a priest or officiant to finish the ceremony essentially, or combine the two somehow.
Has anyone had a Muslim/Catholic wedding or been to one?? I’m having a hard time figuring out how I can equally incorporate major elements of both religions as it is important to us. Any advice??
Post # 3
I do know that it is can be very difficult for a Catholic priest to “co-officiate” at a wedding; I believe there are some complicated rules, but exceptions can be made (and maybe you might find a priest who doesn’t really care,) but I’d recommend talking to a priest first, and seeing if what you’re envisioning is even possible from a Catholic standpoint.
Post # 4
a muslim man can marry a non muslim woman, as long as she is a believer of the Holy Book (Christian. Jewish etc). You should try and find an imam who can perform the nikah ceremony, which is the important part of the wedding as it signifies you are married in Islam. Maybe contact the local mosque or get in touch with the Islamic society in your area. INsya allah they will be willing to help.
All the best with the wedding preps!
Post # 5
@smashkins: I am Catholic and marrying a Muslim man. We have found a priest and an imam who will marry us in a joint ceremony (they actually work together on a college campus). We are going to be meeting wih them soon to discuss the details go the ceremony- because I am also a bit unsure of exactly who will be doing what. We are getting married this July, though, so we will be figuring that all out soon. If you’d like message me and can sharesterols wih you after we meet with both officiants!!
Post # 6
@rubia12: I am Catholic and marrying a Muslim man. We are having two ceremonies, because his family lives in India and it is too hard to have people travel to either place. If you can find a Catholic priest to co-officiate, that is lucky. One rule in the Catholic church is that the ceremony must be in a church. Otherwise you need to get permission from the Bishop (if I’m not mistaken…) Our Catholic ceremony will be in March in a church, and the priest has been nice about it. No mass will be celebrated, though.
The Nikah will be two weeks from now in India. They know I am not converting to Islam, and are leaving anything resembling that out of the ceremony. Likewise, my Fiance is not becoming Catholic.
Hope all goes well for you!
Post # 7
@monksmonks: I’m also Catholic and marrying a muslim man. We are also having two ceremonies..one will be in our hometown in the mosque and the other will be at a destination ceremony probably in Mexico. I do not plan to convert either and I was wondering what you mean by “not having anything resembling that out of our ceremony”. All of this is very new to me and I just want to know what others experiences were in an interfaith marriage sitaution. I see in your post it said your Nikah was two weeks from the post date so I’m sure it has alreaday gone by. How was it? any advice for this newbie?
Post # 7
You can definitely get married. I’m engaged to a Muslim man. To be married in a church, and to have the marriage valid in the Catholic faith, you have to promise to do all that is in your power to have the children that may result from your marriage baptized and raised in the Catholic faith, though. And your fiance has to be aware of this promise. We took this to mean that any kids we have will be baptized and will attend church with me weekly, but he can also tell them about his faith and take them to his mosque. You usually can’t marry in the Catholic Church if you plan to only teach your kids his faith though, because it is against the religion. Otherwise, the requirements are the same as any marriage- exclusive, permanent, and open to life.
For both faiths, it is easiest to have two separate ceremonies (That is what we are doing) but a bishop can technically allow a ceremony that is not in a church if the priest requests it. Many priests will allow an imam to assist or bless the marriage, but will not let him officiate.
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monksmonks : rubia12 : hey guys how can I get in contact with you regarding information on this, I am a Muslim girl wanting to marry a catholic guy and we both don’t know what to do about this? Please help if you have some answers 🙂 thank you
Post # 9
Dee01 : As a Muslim woman myself you do know it’s forbidden in Islam for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man, right? You prob will not find an Imam to do this.
Its different for a Muslim man marrying a non Muslim woman.
Post # 10
Dee01 : I come from a Muslim background (I don’t identify myself too much with the Islamic religion (personal choice)). My fiance is/was Catholic. We recently got engaged but for my parents acceptance he had to convert. My brother married his girlfriend with a buddhist background. My parents weren’t concerned about her religious background.
Post # 11
kuriousflour : How does the conversion/nikah process work over here (US)? I know how it works in my home country where you have to go to these classes and series of government offices to get paperwork done.
Did he convert the same day of nikah? Prior to? What did you guys do?
Post # 12
im so glad i found this thread. I am Catholic and my fiance is Muslim. Neither of us are converting either. Both familes are very supportive of our relationship but we have decided to elope just the two of us and have a spiritual ceramony. Neither of us is super religous so this works for us. Our families are disappointed because they both wanted big weddings but this is for us, not them. Anyone else skipped the big ceremonies and just eloped? How did your families handle it? We arent planning on having a reception either which further disappointed them. My family has a lot of big drinkers and this as yall know is against Islam even though many Muslims drink. If yall had receptions how did you handle the alcohol part?
Post # 13
Hello everyone! I’m Catholic and I got married to my Pakistani-American Muslim husband almost 7 years ago. Neither of us converted. Here’s a description:
We actually had two interfaith wedding ceremonies. It was important to us that both ceremonies be a fusion of our two faiths and cultural backgrounds, to fully represent the unity of joining our lives together in marriage.
The religious ceremony (held 9/11/11) was officiated by a Catholic priest and a Muslim imam, and held in the University of Chicago chapel used both for Catholic services and Muslim Friday prayer. We had readings from the Bible and a Muslim devotional poem. The ceremony included both the traditional Catholic Rite of Marriage and a Nikah, traditional Islamic marriage contract signing. We were also aware of the significance of the date and felt like our ceremony was a symbolic counter to the horrific acts a decade prior.
The legal marriage ceremony (held the day before, on 9/10/11) was officiated by an interfaith minister. She spoke of the commonalities between our two faiths (both Abrahamic, worship the same God, similar values, recognition of Jesus, deference of Mary). We began the ceremony by passing the sign of peace (an important Catholic ritual) that tied in the Muslim greeting of ‘As-salaamu Alaikum,’ meaning ‘Peace be with you.’ This ceremony also included some sayings from the Prophet and scripture from the Bible. Processional music was performed by strings (cello, violin) and a tabla and sitar (nod to Shaan’s Pakistani heritage, which was also celebrated the night prior in a henna party).
Even years after our marriage, we still had not found a Muslim/Christian interfaith supportive group for couples and families, so we made one! We have discussion about how to find clergy, find relationship counselors, plan a wedding, raise children, etc. Please join us! https://www.facebook.com/groups/538114869892668/
Post # 14
eandh0904 : Dee01 : One place to go to look for an imam who would be helpful with officiating with a Muslim bride would be Muslims for Progressive Values: http://www.mpvusa.org