(Closed) Catholic Themed Wedding Favors and Byzantine Catholic Crowns

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Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 If I were you I would counsel them not to waste their money on favors, especially when they are having a potluck wedding.

Is there another church nearby that might have crowns you could borrow?

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ladymage :  

You might try posting here:

http://www.byzcath.org/forums/ubbthreads.php/forum_summary

http://www.byzcath.org/forums/ubbthreads.php/topics/325414/all/Byzantine%20Catholic%20Wedding

Post # 4
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Honey bee

I’m sorry but I don’t see the need to give pictures of icons to guests of all faiths, including non-believers. I agree that guest hosting is of greater importance.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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ladymage :  skip the favors, especially as there’s is a large mixture of faiths/faithless attending. If everyone isn’t catholic, then it’s weird to take an icon as a favor. I grew up catholic but I’m an atheist and so I wouldn’t take the favor as I would just trash it and that seems rude since it has religious connotations. Just a waste of money if a favor doesn’t have mass appeal. 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
Post # 7
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Sugar bee

It doesn’t sound like the majority of the guests would appreciate a picture of a saint. They’d either not be taken or thrown in the trash. Either figure out a better favor or skip them altogether.  

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I’ve gotta agree with others here that the favors are a bad idea.   I wouldn’t take one,  and would feel that the couple completely wasted their money.  I’d also be a little offended.   I mean,  would they gladly accept a statue of Ganesh?  Or a copy of the Koran?  I’d happily attend their wedding but would feel they’re being a bit preachy with the favors.   Please convince them to do something else or nothing at all? 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

As a committed (Protestant) Christian, who attends Catholic church from time to time, I would still find it weird to have an icon as a favour and wouldn’t know what to do with it. I think that with such a mix of religions it’s better to forgo them.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I would get the laminate cards, but get the ones that have a prayer on them. Then I would hole punch them and slide a pretty ribbon through so they can be used as a bookmark. I like these cards because they are sturdy, can be easily carried and looked at when needed. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I think this is such a waste of money.  I really cannot wrap my head around paying for religious favours to give to non religious and guests of different faiths while skipping food and asking guests to bring their own.  

Skewed priorities. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

Are they trying to convert their guests with the favors? My sister became extremely religious five years ago and she truly, 100 percent believes that she is saving people by converting them to her religion. All the other religions have it wrong, only hers is right.

Dealing with her thoughts obviously taint my thoughts on this post, but I’m wondering if that’s why they were planning on those favors.

I agree with pp, skip the favors.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

 I would love getting a copy of the Quran or a statute of Ganesh, or anything representing a couple’s faith tradition. I would put it up somwhere and appreciate it as a piece of art or literature, or something with historical or cultural signifigance, and of course a reminder of who my friends are as a couple and my relationship with them . I have a beautifully illustrated copy of the Quran in my home now – hint, I am not Muslim. I  think only narrow people would really be offended by such a gift. 

I agree with PPs that there should maybe be other priorities in this situation. The crowns are an important part of the marriage ritual and I woud concentrate on securing those – even before feeding guests. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

I agree with PP to skip the favors if they are trying to be frugal. At my Catholic wedding, we had a basket of prayer cards that people could take if they wanted – we had a good amount left over after the wedding. If they really want spend money on these icons, though, I’ve always like the ones from here: https://www.monasteryicons.com/ There are pocket icons available on this site under the ‘Icon Gifts’ section. These aren’t wood, but I think they look really nice.

Edited to add the link to the website where we bought our prayer cards in case that’s of interest to your friends: http://www.personalizedholycards.com/Wedding-Anniversary-c16/ 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Just some arguments for forgoing favors:

As a person who was raised Catholic, I stopped taking funeral prayer cards back in like 2005 after the third time I cleaned out an older relative’s house and found huge stacks of them they’d collected over the years, never looked at again but felt too guilty to throw out.  It will just take up space in people’s house if you make wood ones. Out of 200 maybe a dozen will actually cherish it and that’s high. 

As a non practicing person, I’d probably internally roll my eyes, smile politely and say no thank you to someone offering me an icon. I’d obviously never mention it to the bride and groom, because I know it’s important to them. However, the ceremony is about the couple, the reception and the favors are a thank you are for the guests. Non practicing and non believing people are likely making an effort to attend and be respectful of the church, don’t give them something they will then to home and continue to be respectful of. 

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