Post # 16
For me, it would depend on the motive behind it. I have a tough time stomaching my sisters arrogance of “my religion and my version of the bible is the only correct one, everyone else is wrong and going to hell, if I convert them to my religion, they will be saved”
She actually told me that she felt horrible for me because I’m going to hell and so will my daughter if she doesn’t accept the correct religion.
Some religions have “tacts” that they leave around to convert people.
My sister is obviously not the norm and I don’t know if that’s why op’s friends want to use saints as favors, but if it is, it would turn my stomach to get one.
Post # 17
I agree that gifts and favors – and weddings in general, should not be used to “make a statement” to guests. Finger wagging should be at a minimum. It should be a moment of unity not division.
True religion is an act of humility and it sounds like your sister isn’t doing that yet. But her ideas about salvation, while incorrect imo, are not incongruous with true religion. If she both loves you and really believes you will burn in hell unless you convert, yes she will urgently want you to convert. It would be an insult if she believed this and didn’t care if you convert.
The question is, are her beliefs and actions motivated by love for you and commitment to the truth? Or does she like going to church and hearing that she is right and others wrong, smart where others are stupid, holy where others are sinful. Telling you she pities you would seem to place her in the latter category. It sounds like she is young in her religion – she no doubt has some growing up to do in it – whatever it is.
All of that to say, even if my Muslim friends gave me th Quran with at least the faint hope that I would read it and see the error of my ways — I believe that is motivated by love for me and not a desire on their part to remind me of how wrong they think I am.
Post # 18
Love your input! We had a horrible childhood and I turned to therapy to get through it, she turned to a religion that she discovered. I know how easily we can be manipulated and sucked up into things, I think that’s what happened to her.
Finding her religion completely changed her over the course of a few years so I think she was looking for answers as to why we’ve been through what we’ve been through and she found comfort there.
I do think she has an immaturity about it, but, she is truly very happy so I just let it go.
When she realised I wasn’t going to convert, she stopped pushing it, I think she’s just resigned herself to the fact that I’m going to hell 😉 while she seems fanatical about it, she has a good job and is responsible with her money, so she’s definitely in a good place in her life.
I know she loves me though.