Post # 1
I need help! So my Fiance is catholic but I am not, I am christian. His mother wants us to have the catholic marriage blessing ect. Our wedding is on a sunday and his grandmother said that it cannot be catholic because catholic weddings are not allowed on sunday but this is all our budget will allow. We are not trying to have an entire catholic ceremony. We want a short sweet wedding with some traditions from both of our religions. Do any of you have any ideas on some cathlic traditions, readings, ect we could do? Thanks
Post # 3
An easy one would be to share the sign of peace.
Catholic hymns are almost exclusively based on biblical passages, and there is a lot of great music to choose from. If part of your goal is to please his family, you should avoid non-religious music.
In addition, the Catholic bible is substantially the same as the one used by other Christians, so the readings are the same, though always from the bible during a church wedding.
Post # 4
First of all, Catholics are Christian too (by saying your Fiance is Catholic, but you aren’t – you are Christian), implies he isn’t Christian too.
Second of all, I’m not sure what you are asking. Are you trying to be married at a Catholic church? If so, they probably won’t allow you to get married on a Sunday.
There aren’t specific “Catholic” readings. Readings at Catholic weddings are selected from the Old Testament, New Testament, and Gospel. You might try going to a Catholic bookstore and picking up a book on Catholic marriage ceremonies. That may give you specific ideas for readings and prayers.
Post # 5
Thanks girls for the info! And yes, of course Catholics are Christians. I meant to say that I am not with a specific denomination. I had surgery yesterday and am a little drugged up so I did not word this too clearly! We are not getting married at a church. We are getting married at a castle! 🙂 So our wedding definitely will not be a Catholic wedding I just wanted to incorporate some of his religion into the ceremony as well. I will take a look at the link. Thank you both for all the info!
Post # 6
A few things:
This is minor, but you can have a Catholic wedding on Sunday, it just has to be in the regular Sunday mass. But that’s just a moot point since you’ve already started to make plans!
I’ve seen people post this question a few times and its always met with a little resistance. I think its because Catholics don’t view parts of the weddings as “traditions,” but more elements you have to have in order to have a Catholic wedding. So I think to Catholics sometimes it seems like “what! you can’t cut and paste!”
But I think its great that you want to honor both sides of your family. I agree, sign of peace is a good one. It’s a great way to celebrate unity.
Their are specific readings that Catholics choose from for wedding readings. You can find them here:
You could also do the traditional Catholic vows, “I x, take you x, to be husband. I promise to be true to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you, and honor you, all the days of my life.”
Or you could do the prayers of the faithful, which is when you pray for the church and the world as well as friends and family.
Also, Catholics instead of the “with this ring, I thee wed” say something more like “In the name of the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit, take and wear this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness.”
You could also look into traditional Catholic hymns. I hope that helps!
Post # 7
@jedeve That helps a TON thanks soooo much! I am also going to take to his mom about it but just thought I would get a better understanding first. I really appreciate it!
Post # 8
I would talk to your officiant and ask for suggestions…they are used to incorporating different faiths and traditions. This is what you’re paying them for!
And I know you’re getting married at a castle, but you CAN have a Catholic wedding on a Sunday. And NO, you don’t have to use that Sunday’s mass. We are having a Catholic wedding on a Sunday and get to choose our own readings and our priest has been really great to work with so far.
Post # 9
How nice that you are considering his mother in planning your wedding. She should appreciate that a lot and see she’s going to have a considerate daughter in law. Good catch on the Catholic/Christian thing, it drives Catholics crazy not to be considered Christian.