(Closed) Catholic Wedding Costs

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Well, do you have a lay person minister who does marriage prep and/or related paper work in your church? he/she should give you a good ballpark.

If circumstances permitting, I would pay at least $100.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’ve heard again and again that the suggested priest donation is from $150-$200 at least from here on the bee and within my area. 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I do think it depends on the area of the country.  I do agree with pren79 in that you could ask someone or call the rectory and speak with the assistant, they should know or offer help

— you could also ask the priest too in a polite manner as I did (“Father, is there a suggested or appropriate honorarium?”). 

I would say that if the organist is $125, you should think about giving the priest more than that. 

And remember, because it is a gift to the priest (religious offering) you can deduct it from your taxes.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We’re doing $100, but we’re in a small town. I’d say $150-200 is appropriate, but I can almost guarantee he’s probably recieved much less and much more than that. Look at it this way — he’s the person who will be truly making your marriage valid. What’s it worth??

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re giving $150. I’m interested to hear what others have to say, because ours was a total guess, as well!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We hadn’t decided yet – we still have a bit 🙂

I just want to throw out there in regards to Appleblossom‘s comment, that the couple actually gives the sacrament to each other…. not the priest conferring it on you… 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I wondered this as well – but we received a little folder of info from our church and luckily it says that the typical gift amount is $50-$100.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re not being asked to pay a cent for our wedding, so we’re donating $200 to the church and $100 to our priest (a friend of FI) and $50 to the priest who’s doing our pre-marital counseling.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow, you guys are lucky.  For some reason to get married at our church it was $860 total.  That includes priest fee, altar boys, pre-marital class, organist, and whatever else.  It was considered “financial obligation.”  We were shocked to say the least, but its a beautiful church. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had to pay two churches because I had to take pre-cana classes in one state and a “donation” to the church where I was getting married.

For the actual priest who was marrying us, I had to donate $150.

But the pre cana classes cost me $200.

For the alter servers, we gave them $15 each.

For the organist, it was $150.

For the soloist, it was $150.

Both of which were near big cities… Seattle and Philadelphia. I don’t know if that makes a difference on how expensive things are. 

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hmm. I’m wondering if the donation to the priest is tax deductible since it’s really a personal gift? I’d check with your tax person on the priest gift. I know donations for the wedding to the church are deductible. ANy CPa’s care to chime in?

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

$600 for our church (up $200 from the previous year). I’m not sure how to even address additional donations but another large church in downtown Milwaukee costs $750.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve always heard to get married in a church was just a donation of like $200 or so.  Learning is was $860 was shocking and def. took a hit on our budget.  Our church is in Cleveland, OH  and not even in the Downtown area.  I thought it was ironic though that the priest made a comment about how expensive weddings are?!  Yeah, ya think? 

 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

$500 to reserve the church, $150 as a donation to the priest (I just checked with our music director who says this is sort of the going rate in our area), $350 for the music director/organist, $250 for the cantor, $250 for a trumpeter, $50 for an altar server and ~$300 for our engaged encounter weekend.  And that does not even count the cost of decorating the church!  It’s definitely expensive but I think it will be totally worth it =)

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