(Closed) Catholic Wedding – Does he have to be baptised?

posted 5 years ago in Catholic
Post # 2
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook

I’m in the U.S. so I’m not sure how different it is in the UK, but here you would just need approval from the archbishop and there also would be some additional paperwork.  They would also reccomend not doing a full mass, but if you insist on a full mass they would just not give the groom communion.

Post # 3
1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I live in the US and have two different answers for you.

When my sister (Catholic) got married, her husband did not have to convert. She still had a full Catholic mass.

When my good friend (Catholic) got married in the church she grew up in, she spoke with the deacon. He said her future husband had to convert. Pre cana classes took about a year to complete.

Post # 4
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I am in the US as well.  The catholic church we picked told us they do not require baptism nor do they require a catholic baptism.  So I would say it would depend on the specific church you pick and what they require. 

Post # 5
917 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

It varies per parish and per diocese. At my church, Catholics can marry non-Catholics as long as they go through pre-Cana and promise to raise their children Catholic, but they would not be able to have the full mass. I believe the only reason they would need approval from the bishop is if they wanted to have the ceremony outside of the church. At other churches in our diocese, however, they have allowed full masses in cases like these –  I think my church is more strict because it’s the primary cathedral of our diocese. FYI, I live in the Midwestern US.

Post # 6
312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

It really depends on the church.  I am baptized Catholic, my fiance is not baptized in any faith.  We are having a Catholic wedding and my church was fine with him not being baptized.  We will complete a day of Pre Cana which is a requirement for any Catholic wedding.  I’d suggest talking to the church where you want to marry (or ask a few if one church says no).

Post # 7
7897 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

If he is not a baptized Christian, technically you would have to file for a dispensation from disparity of cult. You’d have to promise to try to raise your kids Catholic, etc. Your marriage would not be a Sacrament. To me, it’s a lot of hoops for the church to ultimately still consider your marriage to be of different quality than that between two Christians.

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