Post # 1
Very new to the site (first day) and only got engaged last week but something has been playing on my mind. I am a practising Catholic (based in the UK) but my Fiance has no faith and has not been baptised into any faith. I really want a Catholic wedding and he is in full agreement with this but does anyone know what hoops we may have to jump through? From reading I think we can make a request from the bishop but this is contradictory in places! I don’t want him to be forced into the faith either…very confused and my priest is ill and I am unable to ask his advice.
Thanks in advance 🙂
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook
I’m in the U.S. so I’m not sure how different it is in the UK, but here you would just need approval from the archbishop and there also would be some additional paperwork. They would also reccomend not doing a full mass, but if you insist on a full mass they would just not give the groom communion.
Post # 3
I live in the US and have two different answers for you.
When my sister (Catholic) got married, her husband did not have to convert. She still had a full Catholic mass.
When my good friend (Catholic) got married in the church she grew up in, she spoke with the deacon. He said her future husband had to convert. Pre cana classes took about a year to complete.
Post # 4
I am in the US as well. The catholic church we picked told us they do not require baptism nor do they require a catholic baptism. So I would say it would depend on the specific church you pick and what they require.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom
It varies per parish and per diocese. At my church, Catholics can marry non-Catholics as long as they go through pre-Cana and promise to raise their children Catholic, but they would not be able to have the full mass. I believe the only reason they would need approval from the bishop is if they wanted to have the ceremony outside of the church. At other churches in our diocese, however, they have allowed full masses in cases like these – I think my church is more strict because it’s the primary cathedral of our diocese. FYI, I live in the Midwestern US.
Post # 6
It really depends on the church. I am baptized Catholic, my fiance is not baptized in any faith. We are having a Catholic wedding and my church was fine with him not being baptized. We will complete a day of Pre Cana which is a requirement for any Catholic wedding. I’d suggest talking to the church where you want to marry (or ask a few if one church says no).
Post # 7
If he is not a baptized Christian, technically you would have to file for a dispensation from disparity of cult. You’d have to promise to try to raise your kids Catholic, etc. Your marriage would not be a Sacrament. To me, it’s a lot of hoops for the church to ultimately still consider your marriage to be of different quality than that between two Christians.
Post # 8
Thank you very much for your posts, I will speak to my priest where I attend mass (when he is well) and see what he says. You guys are right i can always try another church if need be.