Post # 1
My Fiance was born and raised Catholic and would like to have a Catholic wedding. HOWEVER, my family is RLDS, and more to the point, so is my grandfather, who has married every couple in my family for hte last thirty years. I would be heartbroken if he couldn’t marry us. My first question is: is there any dispensation you can get to be married by a non-catholic officient and still have it recognized in the church?
IF NOT, heres my second question 🙂
What is the protocol for convalidation AFTER we’re married by my grandfather? IS that a viable solution to my problem or will we have to jump through lots of hoops to do this? I am planning to convert, but won’t be done with RCIA by the time our wedding rolls around, so I thought it might be nice to coincide convalidation with my confirmation, if possible.
Thanks, I know theres probably a thousand questions about Catholic weddings on here every day, but I appreciate people’s patience!
Post # 3
I am actually going through the RCIA classes right now. You can absolutely have the Catholic rite of marriage performed following your confirmation. It won’t be at the same time, as confirmation takes place at the Easter vigil, but you can set it up to have the priest do soon after.
Also, you may want to consider having your fiance ask the pastor of his church if he or a deacon would be willing to co-officiate the wedding with your grandfather. It woud be a wonderful gesture to his family.
Don’t hesitate to call your fiance’s church either. I find people at mine to be more than willing to help, especially when they know you are converting. They have all kinds of rules regarding other religions and what they do/don’t accept or recognize, and the smallest detail can effect the Church’s position on a matter.
Post # 4
I’m not sure if this is exactly what you are asking — but I know that my cousin was married outside on a beach, and then on her one year anniversary they had another very small ceremony in a Catholic church so that their marriage was valid in the Catholic church. Wish I knew more so I could help — but I would definitely say just open the lines of communication and talk to everyone about it. Get everyone on the same page – it’s wonderful that you want to recognize both of your faiths. Good luck!