(Closed) Catholic Wedding Fee Too High?

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
  • poll: How much was your catholic wedding fee?
    Under $100 : (0 votes)
    $100-300 : (4 votes)
    12 %
    $300-500 : (6 votes)
    18 %
    $500- 1000 : (8 votes)
    24 %
    $1000-1500 : (5 votes)
    15 %
    $1500-2000 : (7 votes)
    21 %
    $2000+ : (3 votes)
    9 %
    Donation of your choice : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
    Member
    4409 posts
    Honey bee

    bzh19 :  Not me but three of my friends got married in the same church. This church is very much in demand in our area and books fast. I believe they all paid about $1200. The church call it as a “donation” but honestly, I don’t see any difference of it being just a called as a fee since it’s a fixed amount.

    Post # 3
    Member
    336 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    We paid 450 usd, but it wasn’t a cathedral but I could understand it would be a little bit higher for cathedral, but that seems crazy. We paid additional 300 for cantor/organist (150 usd each) and I consider it pretty okay. I generally don’t like the idea of having fees for Sacrament, and that IS somewhat against canon law, and they shouldn’t require a high fixed fee. Having said that they probably feel that a lot of people spend thousands of dollars on dresses and flowers, but except the fee to be super low. I would simply say that you cannot afford such high fee and you weren’t prepared for paying a fixed fee for a sacrament, and give the the maximum amount you can pay.

    With cantor/organist it’s different, they are lay people who work for money and here I wouldn’t protest much. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    819 posts
    Busy bee

    $2,500 does sound awfully high, but the fact that it’s a cathedral could be part of the reason. Our church fee was $600, which included all of the musicians, but it’s a little church in a relatively small town. If you’re in a city and essentially renting a larger space, the fee does make a little more sense, but I still think it’s pretty high.

    Post # 5
    Member
    205 posts
    Helper bee

    I guess $2000+ is about right for a Catholic cathedral. My husband’s family just attended a wedding at a Cathedral in St. Louis and it cost them the same.

    Post # 6
    Member
    205 posts
    Helper bee

    I refused to even pay $800+ for some of the garden type venues in our area.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1301 posts
    Bumble bee

    Pretty normal. Especially if it’s a cathedral that’s in high demand. They usually have a wedding person on staff that you have to pay, and the musicians make their living from performing on weekends for weddings/funerals, so if you choose not to use those particular ones, they are losing income. If you want the big church for your ceremony and photos, you have to pay for it. If you’re only having 50 people, why do you need to get married in a cathedral?

    Post # 8
    Member
    1250 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

    My local cathedral is $1400 (from U.K. £1000)

    Post # 10
    Member
    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    Talk to them about if the fee stays the same after you register for the parish.  There’s usually a different fee schedule for members vs. non-members.

     

    (I say this while hoping in the back of my mind that they’ll knock the fee at my current church down a bit for me since I’m their cantor-who-shows-up-reliably.  Get on their books, get involved, make close connections.  Be a member of the community who is getting married, not just someone who wants to get married in their building.  It does make a difference!)

    Post # 11
    Member
    3594 posts
    Sugar bee

    Our fee was $1,500 plus the musicians, and we gave a gift card to the priest. But not to burst your bubble but I think may be missing the cost of the pre-cana classes from your budget. Ours were nearly another $500.

    Our church doesn’t turn anyone away for hardship, but you have to talk to the priest to work that out, not the office staff.

     

    Post # 12
    Member
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Those fees seem pretty normal to me for a Catholic cathedral. When you say that you plan to make the cathedral your home parish with the move, do you know for sure if you live in parish boundaries? Usually the fee is lower for people who have been active, registered members of the parish for some length of time, but as newly registered members who just moved in, they may make an exception if you can get a letter from a priest at your old parish establishing you’ve been active there. There is usually some wiggle room, and the “suggested donation” for established parishoners can be substantially lower.

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I forgot to mention: Catholic churches also aren’t supposed to turn down letting people marry out of inability to pay. You may be able to work out a lower fee if you discuss financial concerns, but if their fees are something they rely on for their operating budget, their alternative may be helping to arrange a wedding at a less expensive Catholic church in the area.

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    2998 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’m voting on behalf of my friend who is getting married in a Catholic church this Friday in Fort Worth. She is paying $1,500 just to get married. No decorations, no music, just the ceremony and priest. It is a full hour mass but I thought that price was OUTRAGEOUS! That doesn’t include all the classes and pre-marital counseling they have to go through before. She is honestly so stressed and spread so thin between work, planning the wedding, attending her Catholic classes, and DIY’ing I don’t even think it’s worth it!

    Edit:The church isn’t even pretty! Just a regular church!

    Post # 15
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    2146 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    it all depends where you are

    CofE have a flat fee of £480 and can then add extras like heating, floor cleaning and any choir or bells etc… but since catholic is not a recognised legal marraige here they dont have a set fee so it vary church to church

    a few friends from scotland have had ‘free’ weddings (they had to give legal notice at £70 I think) but the church and priest/vicor where free because they knew them well and the law is different there

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