(Closed) Catholic Wedding in New Orleans

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Is there a reason you are not using that parish’s regular priest? 

If you are both baptized Catholic, there should be no problem with having a full mass (with communion).  In fact, as long as one of you is baptized as a Catholic, this is possible, although you need to get a dispensation if one of you is not baptized. I know you said you were not confirmed, but did you receive your First Communion as a child? If so, I really do not see why there would be a problem with doing the full mass.  Usually priests are hesitant to do communion if only one member of the couple (in your case, the groom) is going to be receiving, because it is pointing out a separation in the couple during a ceremony that is supposed to be about unity. However, you could ask him to do it and just give you a blessing instead. 

http://catholicweddinghelp.com is really helpful for figuring out what your options are. I would highly recommend contacting the parish office, and speaking to their regular priest (if it’s a larger parish, they might also have several priests). If they are unwilling to perform the ceremony with a full mass, I would ask them for recommendations if they know any other priests who would be willing to.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Have you spoken to the priest at the church where you attend, or perhaps the parish of one of the family members who is pushing you to have a full mass? I find it difficult to believe that the rules are different just because you are in the South (my husband lived in Houston for several years, and we did our pre-cana down there, so I have some experience with the Church in that area). If there are no priests you have a personal relationship with, I think contacting the Archdiocesan office that handles marriage ministry would be your best bet: http://fla.arch-no.org/index.php

If you do not currently attend weekly mass, I would also recommend that as a possible way to get a priest who will do a full mass for your wedding. If you look through past posts in the Catholic board here on the Weddingbee, brides tend to have a lot more luck doing things that are slightly unconventional when they have developed a relationship with the priest. Because marriage is an important sacrament in the Catholic Church, priests can be hesitant to go out of their way to help someone who they feel is just having a church wedding for the setting or to make their families happy, rather than for religious reasons. Becoming involved in your local parish is a great way to do this.  You will need to be registered with a parish before you get married anyways (in most diocese, you need a letter of permission from your priest to get married at a church outside of your own parish, like you are). This will also give you the opportunity to start your marriage prep, as there is paperwork and counseling that you have to go through with a priest. It is possible that after you do this, the priest who you worked with will be more inclined to be flexible if it is against his policy to usually do a full mass.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

You might have better luck if you posted this on the local board for New Orleans.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am getting married in NOLA and my Priest is Father Pawlicki.  He does weekend masses at Saint Maria Goretti.  

He is very nice and understanding of different situations.  it might be worth it for you to give the church a call.

 

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