(Closed) Catholic/Church of England wedding

posted 7 years ago in Interfaith
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Getting married in a Catholic church does require a few more forms to fill out, but for the most part it’s easy and the preparation is really helpful! So it shouldn’t be too many hoops.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You said you’re Catholic? But then you said the Catholic church isn’t really your church?
(I think I kind of know what you mean…but that still doesn’t quite make sense.)

You didn’t explicitly ask this, but I hope that you are aware that if you ARE Catholic, and you marry outside the Catholic church (only in very, very, very rare circumstances can people get exceptions for this,) then the Catholic church will not consider your marriage valid. (which is why your parents and grandparents would have a problem with that.) I’m pretty sure that a Catholic priest is not allowed to give a “blessing” to such a marriage, in another church, but perhaps you could find a priest who would.

However, the other angle is that you should not do something so serious if you don’t really believe in it, just to please your parents/grandparents. I think that would make a mockery of the Catholic sacrament.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

One thing I would say is, please don’t pick the Anglican church because it’s pretty – churches of all denominations are very offended and annoyed by brides who do that. It’s important that you pick the house of worship for more better reasons (family tradition, family history, you agree with more of the teachings etc)

Post # 8
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Helper bee

@red_rose: i do love your posts! out of interst, what are the exceptions where a baptised catholic can have a valid marriage outside the church?

@Novella: my understanding is, that if you are catholic and marry outside the church ie in a non catholic ceremony, the catholic church woudl not recognise it as valid. you then would be considered as living in sin after the wedding since you are not seen as validly married in the catholic church (even though you ARE legally married, and c of e married), and you would then not be able to recive communion in the catholic church.

BUT!!! i have heard there is something called ‘convalidation’ where a marriage outside the church can be blessed by the catholic church and made valid. i am not sure how it works if there is a prior interfaith marriage, but if anyone knows or you ask your priest this may be helpful

also if you marry in the catholic church, i think you have to agree to a)avoid contraception and be open to babies, and b) raise your kids catholic. something to consider too for the future

Post # 9
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Worker bee

@Novella:  Was your significant other baptized in the Church of England?  As long as he was baptized, his being Church of England should not be an impediment to getting married in the Catholic Church from what I understand.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

@singasong:i thought ANYONE can get married to a catholic in catholic church if they obtain a dispensation from the bishop, and agree that the children will be raised catholic.

Post # 11
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Worker bee

You need a dispensation for disparity of cult if the person is non-Christian (and from what I have read, the marriage will not be sacramental).  You can still have a sacramental marriage if you are marrying a non-Catholic Christian, but just have to get permission to do so.  It is pretty simple to get permission to marry a non-Catholic Christian in my experience.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Right there with you only I am the Anglican and Fiance is the Catholic.  We are going through dispensation issues right now (and are working hard at it).  However, look to the Lambeth Conference of 1978, Resolution 34 dealing with Interfaith Marriages between Anglicans and Roman Catholics.  There are supposed to be rules around us having to have formal dispensation and still having the marriage recognized as valid by both Churches.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Do you think you’re going to want to go back to the Catholic faith? Are you going to want to take communion and call the Catholic church your home? You sound like you’ve given up on Catholicism but are only doing it to appease your family, and that isn’t a good reason to consider validating your marriage. 

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