(Closed) Catholic/Protestant Ceremony–Long Post

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Have you talked to your respective minister/priest?  Most will work with you to incorporate two different religions into a ceremony of your choice.  I like the idea of the outdoor pavillion, becuase it seems it is a more nuetral spot than his church or your church.  Also, speak with your family about the ceremony and let them know it’s about you two getting married and spending your lives together, not about the conflicting religions.

Post # 4
1580 posts
Bumble bee

Why is it that the Methodist believers can’t attend a wedding in a Catholic church? What reasons have they given you?

When you are talking about getting married in these churches, are you talking about the church building or the religion? As far as I know, you can’t get married in the Catholic church without doing marriage prep. I have no idea what the Methodist requirements are. But whether or not receiving the sacrament is important to either or both of you might help you make your decision.

Post # 5
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m a little confused why your family can’t attend a Catholic wedding?  Do you mean they won’t enter the church at all?  Or they wouldn’t participate in a Catholic Mass (like all the sit down, stand up, Eucharist stuff) but they would still be physically there?  I would talk to your Methodist minister and your Fi’s Catholic priest.  Often priests will work with another minister or pastor to combine the two faiths into one ceremony. 

As far as the problem goes about whether to have a more formal affair or a more informal wedding and reception, I think you can combine both of your visions.  Having an organist and a vocalist doesn’t necessarily mean uber-formal.  Who knows, maybe he would be happy with an outdoors wedding and electric organ?  That would definitely bring down the formality.

Post # 7
5 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

Camellia I know how you feel–Catholic families are VERY picky when it comes to going to other types of ceremonies.  I was raised Catholic but would consider myself protestant right now, and my fiance was raised in a protestant household.  My grandparents are very old fashioned and stubborn are going to be VERY upset once they find out that we aren’t getting married in the Catholic church, and it’s going to create a lot of drama!  What a tough situation you’re in–try your hardest to have it in the pavilion because in the end, you will be extremely upset if your family can’t attend the Catholic service.

Post # 8
689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

hmmm, i definitely think you should have it in the pavillion, it would be such a shame for your family to not be there, it’s not fair=T…plus you’re already opting to not have it at the church..

we are also having a protestant/catholic wedding and have agreed to have it at my church (baptist) and we are both having a pastor/priest co-officiate..at first my dad was upset at the idea, but then u know what, at the end of the day, it’s YOUR wedding..i’m sure feelings are going to get hurt on both sides, but it’s YOURS and HIS special day, they will somehow have to learn to accept it and try to get over it…

good luck!!

Post # 9
348 posts
Helper bee

Would it be possible to have your major ceremony somewhere that your family will all come to, but also have some sort of blessing at the Catholic church during the weekend to satisfy your fiance and his family?  There is definitely a ceremony for blessing marriages that took place outside the Catholic church.

The larger issue, though, seems to be your fiance’s unwillingness to meet you halfway on these issues.

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